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Post by Deleted on May 19, 2016 15:10:08 GMT -5
Is it just me, or does anyone else find it weird that you would weed out somebody else based on their body type without even having a conversation with them? Really, honestly unmatched? For most humans physical appearance is one part of an ingrained psychological determination of mating and reproductive suitability. It's how we are geared as a species. Honestly speaking for myself if a woman is big as a house and twice as ugly I would not be seeking them out as a mate no matter how brilliant their conversation or the size of their bank account. Call me shallow, but I am willing to bet a hundred dollars in the dark, that truth be known, the vast majority of us fall into the category where physical appearance is the 1st determiner of further actions. Not the only one by any means, but the 1st. And, I will repeat what I said: physical attraction is part of the package. If I meet a man who is intelligent, funny, wants the same things out of life, etc., but there is no physical attraction - what I have found is a good friend. We people who have been in SMs, of all people, should understand this at least a little. If I had wanted a relationship with a great guy, but there was no sexual vibe there, I could have stayed with my refuser. Now, I do think that some people are shallow, and just plain too picky about a date's looks. For example, the man I was talking to. I *am* better looking than he is; and I got the feeling that he is shallow and too picky, thinks he's God's gift to women. And, I will go further, and say that, for my partner, I want it to be a man that I am sexually attracted to. Before you blast me for being shallow - in my case, there is more to sexual attractiveness than just looks. I once knew a man who was overweight whom I would have dated (if the situation had been right) because I found him attractive. Why? Because he was smart, funny, and mischievous. We would have felt like kids doing something naughty and getting away with it. For me, that feeling is an unbeatable aphrodisiac; so his extra pounds didn't bother me in the least. But - I will still drool over pictures of George Clooney. Looks and physical attraction are part of the whole package. I think you have to be mature to understand that a person's personality, as well as their looks, can be an element in the attraction. But I don't scold people for staring at a beautiful-looking person. That's just biology. |
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Post by sand5280 on May 19, 2016 16:05:38 GMT -5
For most humans physical appearance is one part of an ingrained psychological determination of mating and reproductive suitability. It's how we are geared as a species. Honestly speaking for myself if a woman is big as a house and twice as ugly I would not be seeking them out as a mate no matter how brilliant their conversation or the size of their bank account. Call me shallow, but I am willing to bet a hundred dollars in the dark, that truth be known, the vast majority of us fall into the category where physical appearance is the 1st determiner of further actions. Not the only one by any means, but the 1st. And, I will repeat what I said: physical attraction is part of the package. If I meet a man who is intelligent, funny, wants the same things out of life, etc., but there is no physical attraction - what I have found is a good friend. And, I will go further, and say that, for my partner, I want it to be a man that I am sexually attracted to. Addressing all of these quotes together, unmatched and worksforme2 And basically repeating what @smartkat just said, but for emphasis. I will admit immediately that for me physical appearance is the strong primary attraction. I don't personally know anyone else, man or woman, who will say otherwise. As humans we can't really help it. I have the almost identical request list unmatched has: I have it real bad for brunettes with brown eyes, adding with this same described height and weight, long hair. But I am the only man in the state of Michigan who likes small boobs. I got a short hair blonde, blue eyes, although height and weight worked out well. And I got the small boobs too. Now I will refer to the rest of the package, which I detailed in the muscular butt comments in No it's not easier for women. There are lots of things not physical I got too. The obvious physical one will require some problem solving. Throw in the fact that we all are not spring chickens anymore, and it sounds terrible, but you cannot be too choosy. |
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Post by obobfla on May 19, 2016 16:25:34 GMT -5
As my Instagram account will attest, physical appearance is important to me. I follow plenty of pretty girls with shapely rear ends. But they are pictures, and I will probably never have sex with any of them.
But more importantly is what the physical appearance tells me about the person. Is she neat? Does she take care of herself? A 20-year-old woman with a nice figure is probably blessed. A 45-year-old woman with a nice figure is someone who has worked for it. That is one reason I really like attractive older women.
A woman who keeps up her appearance has confidence in herself, which is a lot sexier than any derrière. And if she is smart and funny, I am in love!
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Post by unmatched on May 19, 2016 19:02:45 GMT -5
I will admit immediately that for me physical appearance is the strong primary attraction. I don't personally know anyone else, man or woman, who will say otherwise. As humans we can't really help it. I have the almost identical request list unmatched has: I have it real bad for brunettes with brown eyes, adding with this same described height and weight, long hair. But I am the only man in the state of Michigan who likes small boobs. I think what I was trying to say is that is not my request list. I do think physical attraction is very important, no question. But I have been out with girls who were blonde, dark, tall, short, skinny, well-built, it really doesn't matter to me so long as the chemistry is there. And it is very hard to tell that from a picture. |
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Post by sand5280 on May 19, 2016 19:25:44 GMT -5
I think what I was trying to say is that is not my request list. I do think physical attraction is very important, no question. But I have been out with girls who were blonde, dark, tall, short, skinny, well-built, it really doesn't matter to me so long as the chemistry is there. And it is very hard to tell that from a picture. Apologies to unmatched, I misunderstood. But your statement above wraps it up, your point from before. |
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Post by deborahmanning on May 21, 2016 1:21:04 GMT -5
Oh man, I am screwed (or not) when I finally start dating. An auditory chick in a visual world.
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