Post by greatcoastal on Jun 19, 2018 15:57:25 GMT -5
I had the most wonderful time today ,going shopping with my two beautiful daughters! Now that I am divorced and see my three teens every other week (my other three boys are now adults and are leaving the nest).
At first it sounded a bit embarrassing ,like my youngest telling me all about when her period has started, and texting me to buy her tampons! Hey, this is real life, and I appreciate the challenge, bring it on!
I ask my older daughter to come with us, she has always gladly supported her younger, adopted sister. Words can not express my sincere pleasure and gratitude for her steady built in sense of motherhood towards her sister.
Oh the things I have to say and learn, as my daughters wear and show me their new clothes! ( I can see through that, there's a big gap in there, that's way to tight, this part needs to go up higher, etc...) and yet they still ask /need me to go shopping with them.
For those who don't know, my ex wife was a very butch type person , her figure and mentality seemed very much against clothes that could be labeled 'feminine', so is it any wonder when my teen daughter desperately would want a bikini of her own and not her older sisters stretched out one piece from swim team, that she would ask me and not her mom.
The three of us found a modest black bikini for my asian teenage daughter. I feel like I did my duty as her father to be there and give my approval, knowledge, money, and a sense of respect for both my daughters choices.
My favorite was when I show my daughter the flannel shirt on the mannequin, and she goes "oohh I like that" I try to tie my shirt at the bottom like that, all the girls do that, mine never looks right, but this one is cut that way to be tied I like that". I tell my daughter "it's right here on the mannequin but I don't see another one like it anywhere?"
Just a few seconds later comes an employee putting clothes away. I ask her, "can you show me where I can find this shirt?" Well there wasn't another one around and the size fit my daughter, we bought it, (yes it was on sale) the fun part was how red my daughters face was as we stood next to the topless mannequin! I had even more fun telling her to take a selfie with the very white, topless mannequin,or I'll take one and put my arm around her! We had good fun laughs and did not take any pics.
Do you think my daughter getting her clothes right off the mannequin boosted her moral a bit? It wasn't planned that way. However it brings back memories of my kids getting hand me downs from neighbors and relatives. A nice gesture, and appreciated, yet....Can't a person have something new of the rack once or twice in their youth? (or in their life) and why should I miss the opportunity to share in that? I see it as one of those "do something for yourself, something you enjoy, moments".
My youngest daughter shows me a yellow top with some very small roses placed sparingly in the design. I was quite glad that for once she did not want black or grey. This top has spaghetti straps. Something not welcomed in school dress code. Does it look good on my daughter? Yes it does, with her tan and long black hair. As her father I'm full of questions about her wearing that to school, and what else is she going to wear over that? I get a good list of answers from both my daughters about all the other shirts they have to wear over it, and how freekin' cold it is in the school building and how many of the other girls wear two or three tops/shirts together all the time.
I'm still pleased with the yellow ,instead of more black. when we get home my daughters prance around for me, like little girls again, showing off their new clothes in the big wall mirror in the living room! I'm some what amazed how even at this age they still seek that approval of "do I look pretty?"
All part of life, a time of growing, maturing, adapting in my/our new journey. A memorable time where I feel important and needed as their parent and as dad. Would I enjoy having a woman who would like to go clothes shopping with my daughters? Very much so. Do I realize that my ex W. was, and will never be 'the one' to fill that role? Yes I do. It makes me glad, and a bit sad at the same time to be 'the one' to fill that role.
Our divorce pushes my role to be both mom and dad in these final years. I'm blessed and fortunate for times like these that do go extremely well. My wish is to pass my story along to others, who are divorced or heading that way, that such times and events ,are doable and rewarding, for me and my family.
At first it sounded a bit embarrassing ,like my youngest telling me all about when her period has started, and texting me to buy her tampons! Hey, this is real life, and I appreciate the challenge, bring it on!
I ask my older daughter to come with us, she has always gladly supported her younger, adopted sister. Words can not express my sincere pleasure and gratitude for her steady built in sense of motherhood towards her sister.
Oh the things I have to say and learn, as my daughters wear and show me their new clothes! ( I can see through that, there's a big gap in there, that's way to tight, this part needs to go up higher, etc...) and yet they still ask /need me to go shopping with them.
For those who don't know, my ex wife was a very butch type person , her figure and mentality seemed very much against clothes that could be labeled 'feminine', so is it any wonder when my teen daughter desperately would want a bikini of her own and not her older sisters stretched out one piece from swim team, that she would ask me and not her mom.
The three of us found a modest black bikini for my asian teenage daughter. I feel like I did my duty as her father to be there and give my approval, knowledge, money, and a sense of respect for both my daughters choices.
My favorite was when I show my daughter the flannel shirt on the mannequin, and she goes "oohh I like that" I try to tie my shirt at the bottom like that, all the girls do that, mine never looks right, but this one is cut that way to be tied I like that". I tell my daughter "it's right here on the mannequin but I don't see another one like it anywhere?"
Just a few seconds later comes an employee putting clothes away. I ask her, "can you show me where I can find this shirt?" Well there wasn't another one around and the size fit my daughter, we bought it, (yes it was on sale) the fun part was how red my daughters face was as we stood next to the topless mannequin! I had even more fun telling her to take a selfie with the very white, topless mannequin,or I'll take one and put my arm around her! We had good fun laughs and did not take any pics.
Do you think my daughter getting her clothes right off the mannequin boosted her moral a bit? It wasn't planned that way. However it brings back memories of my kids getting hand me downs from neighbors and relatives. A nice gesture, and appreciated, yet....Can't a person have something new of the rack once or twice in their youth? (or in their life) and why should I miss the opportunity to share in that? I see it as one of those "do something for yourself, something you enjoy, moments".
My youngest daughter shows me a yellow top with some very small roses placed sparingly in the design. I was quite glad that for once she did not want black or grey. This top has spaghetti straps. Something not welcomed in school dress code. Does it look good on my daughter? Yes it does, with her tan and long black hair. As her father I'm full of questions about her wearing that to school, and what else is she going to wear over that? I get a good list of answers from both my daughters about all the other shirts they have to wear over it, and how freekin' cold it is in the school building and how many of the other girls wear two or three tops/shirts together all the time.
I'm still pleased with the yellow ,instead of more black. when we get home my daughters prance around for me, like little girls again, showing off their new clothes in the big wall mirror in the living room! I'm some what amazed how even at this age they still seek that approval of "do I look pretty?"
All part of life, a time of growing, maturing, adapting in my/our new journey. A memorable time where I feel important and needed as their parent and as dad. Would I enjoy having a woman who would like to go clothes shopping with my daughters? Very much so. Do I realize that my ex W. was, and will never be 'the one' to fill that role? Yes I do. It makes me glad, and a bit sad at the same time to be 'the one' to fill that role.
Our divorce pushes my role to be both mom and dad in these final years. I'm blessed and fortunate for times like these that do go extremely well. My wish is to pass my story along to others, who are divorced or heading that way, that such times and events ,are doable and rewarding, for me and my family.
