Post by elkclan2 on May 27, 2018 9:41:46 GMT -5
Birthdays with my ex were dismal. Beyond dismal. I was treated as an afterthought - no gift, nothing. Then he'd - I assume - feel bad about not getting me anything or planning anything and pick a fight. Often an awful fight. Sometimes I thought - ok - look I like to have a bit of a fuss made over me - I don't expect expensive gifts but I do expect some appreciation from my romantic partner- and a little thought. And sex? Ha ha forget it. Maybe that's why he picked the fights - as much to cover up for his shitty no gift behaviour as to prevent the possibility of intimacy.
Today is my birthday. My partner took all the kids out to get me gifts yesterday - it was a fairly random assortment of mainly rubbishy tat, but how fun is that and they were all quite thoughtful in their own way?! And my partner gave me a necklace that is to my taste. We also had some lovely sex this morning, really hot. He also gave me a card thanking me for an amazing year. It has been amazing.
Right now I'm by myself - he's taken them all to see the new Star Wars movie and I'm enjoying time alone. We're going out to eat later. We haven't done anything super flash or exciting. I got some nice gifts I'll keep (a pocketknife and the necklace), but they're not shamazing gifts. What they are is thoughtful and appropriate. The day has been happy so far and I no longer wait for the other shoe to drop so unless there's some kind of awful accident, I know the rest of the day will be happy and fun, too.
Next year, I expect I'll be away for my birthday (on my partner's work trip - it's moving up/ back? a week). It will be fun. I'm so glad I was able to spend this one with the kids and my partner at home - as it looks like I won't be able to for some years to come (the trip is annual and I think I'll probably only go every other year at most).
I'm so, so grateful that I'm with someone who actually gives a shit. And that wouldn't have happened without getting out of my shitty marriage.
Today is my birthday. My partner took all the kids out to get me gifts yesterday - it was a fairly random assortment of mainly rubbishy tat, but how fun is that and they were all quite thoughtful in their own way?! And my partner gave me a necklace that is to my taste. We also had some lovely sex this morning, really hot. He also gave me a card thanking me for an amazing year. It has been amazing.
Right now I'm by myself - he's taken them all to see the new Star Wars movie and I'm enjoying time alone. We're going out to eat later. We haven't done anything super flash or exciting. I got some nice gifts I'll keep (a pocketknife and the necklace), but they're not shamazing gifts. What they are is thoughtful and appropriate. The day has been happy so far and I no longer wait for the other shoe to drop so unless there's some kind of awful accident, I know the rest of the day will be happy and fun, too.
Next year, I expect I'll be away for my birthday (on my partner's work trip - it's moving up/ back? a week). It will be fun. I'm so glad I was able to spend this one with the kids and my partner at home - as it looks like I won't be able to for some years to come (the trip is annual and I think I'll probably only go every other year at most).
I'm so, so grateful that I'm with someone who actually gives a shit. And that wouldn't have happened without getting out of my shitty marriage.
