Post by WindSister on May 27, 2018 9:03:43 GMT -5
A Facebook friend posted again how being single just means you are too awesome to settle for anyone. In her words, "Anyone can have a boyfriend/girlfriend if you have low expectations."
Wow.
I mean, I get people tell themselves what they need to in order to feel good about life, but that's pretty absolute, doomsday thinking. And absolute, doomsday thinking brings to your reality exactly what you are choosing to believe.
So, if that's true, yup.... all of us in relationships are ignorant fools who settled for the first person who came along and thats the only reason we are coupled up. We weren't awesome enough on our own to handle the single life.
If that were absolute truth, I'd have stayed single, too! It's not the absolute truth, though.
There is such a thing as healthy, happy relationships.
Never settle. But at the same time, don't assume everyone in a relationship is settling. I'm not in a relationship because I have "low self esteem." This relationship has allowed me so much growth, I'm better as a person as a result of it. My husband says the same thing.
As always, know thyself first and besr and love thyself first and best. From there, things get easier in life... all areas, actually. No, I haven't mastered it, it's a life practice thing.
My point of that is that then decisions become a bit easier. Live your authentic truth, no apologies or justification needed. Yeah, I see the irony.... I don't have to justify why I'm in a relationship, either, but I'm really not... I just anted to share the thought her post spurred in my head.
I didn't say anything to her. I'm ignoring her post because I don't really believe it.
Wow.
I mean, I get people tell themselves what they need to in order to feel good about life, but that's pretty absolute, doomsday thinking. And absolute, doomsday thinking brings to your reality exactly what you are choosing to believe.
So, if that's true, yup.... all of us in relationships are ignorant fools who settled for the first person who came along and thats the only reason we are coupled up. We weren't awesome enough on our own to handle the single life.
If that were absolute truth, I'd have stayed single, too! It's not the absolute truth, though.
There is such a thing as healthy, happy relationships.
Never settle. But at the same time, don't assume everyone in a relationship is settling. I'm not in a relationship because I have "low self esteem." This relationship has allowed me so much growth, I'm better as a person as a result of it. My husband says the same thing.
As always, know thyself first and besr and love thyself first and best. From there, things get easier in life... all areas, actually. No, I haven't mastered it, it's a life practice thing.
My point of that is that then decisions become a bit easier. Live your authentic truth, no apologies or justification needed. Yeah, I see the irony.... I don't have to justify why I'm in a relationship, either, but I'm really not... I just anted to share the thought her post spurred in my head.
I didn't say anything to her. I'm ignoring her post because I don't really believe it. 
