People will never be happy for your positive changes
May 9, 2018 8:16:36 GMT -5
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Post by WindSister on May 9, 2018 8:16:36 GMT -5
I am not sure where to put this thought.
In making this career move, I have received mixed messages from people, though I am not including my husband in this, he has been nothing but 100% supportive, positive and encouraging, even telling me how proud he is of me, even when I am going from being a supervisor to just an assistant again. I am also not including my GOOD friends - who get me. They have also been supportive.
But from random other people I have gotten responses like
"you are switching careers again??"
" every job sucks, you just have to 'embrace the suck,'"
" every job comes with headaches."
And from co-workers who are fellow Program Directors (we don't work closely, as we are all in our own "areas" of this spread-out region, so we rarely see each other) I haven't received ONE WORD.
That last one feels cold to me. I remember when a PD resigned last year, I personally emailed her after her group response and said I was sorry to see her go, let's stay in touch for networking and look me up if she ever wanted to do happy hour again (she was the only one I did happy hour with, none of the others ever will). Maybe I was the only one she heard from. Maybe there is a reason she and I both left this place. It's cold.
Anyway, I do have a point to this.
It doesn't matter. All those comments come from someone giving me 2.5 seconds of their attention and then they are on to other things.
I am left to live MY LIFE.
Same is true when you start to talk divorce and get comments then, too.
Or you stop drinking.
Or start eating healthy and say no to a piece of cake (oh, the horrors).
Etc.
Know yourself.
Live your Life for You.
In making this career move, I have received mixed messages from people, though I am not including my husband in this, he has been nothing but 100% supportive, positive and encouraging, even telling me how proud he is of me, even when I am going from being a supervisor to just an assistant again. I am also not including my GOOD friends - who get me. They have also been supportive.
But from random other people I have gotten responses like
"you are switching careers again??"
" every job sucks, you just have to 'embrace the suck,'"
" every job comes with headaches."
And from co-workers who are fellow Program Directors (we don't work closely, as we are all in our own "areas" of this spread-out region, so we rarely see each other) I haven't received ONE WORD.
That last one feels cold to me. I remember when a PD resigned last year, I personally emailed her after her group response and said I was sorry to see her go, let's stay in touch for networking and look me up if she ever wanted to do happy hour again (she was the only one I did happy hour with, none of the others ever will). Maybe I was the only one she heard from. Maybe there is a reason she and I both left this place. It's cold.
Anyway, I do have a point to this.
It doesn't matter. All those comments come from someone giving me 2.5 seconds of their attention and then they are on to other things.
I am left to live MY LIFE.
Same is true when you start to talk divorce and get comments then, too.
Or you stop drinking.
Or start eating healthy and say no to a piece of cake (oh, the horrors).
Etc.
Know yourself.
Live your Life for You.
