Circular arguments, Emotional Reasoning and JADE

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Circular arguments, Emotional Reasoning and JADE Apr 29, 2018 18:26:31 GMT -5 GeekGoddess, greatcoastal, and 2 more like this

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Post by baza on Apr 29, 2018 18:26:31 GMT -5

Good find Brother greatcoastal , a terrific and valuable article.

Of the many excellent points raised, this one resonated with me -
"When a narcissist or borderline begins a circular argument, the most important thing to understand is that the stated issue is typically not the issue. The real issue is the abusive person’s personality or, to be more accurate, their personality disorder. If you’re justifying, arguing, defending or explaining yourself in an effort to resolve an issue that isn’t actually the issue of the conflict, how exactly will that help you to resolve anything?"

With idiots, the aim of them provoking the arguement is NOT to resolve anything.
The idiots aim is to get you off balance and keep you off balance, to get you "why" chasing and - by any and all means - distract you from discovering just what a dick of a person they truly are.

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Circular arguments, Emotional Reasoning and JADE May 1, 2018 10:37:44 GMT -5 greatcoastal likes this

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Post by GeekGoddess on May 1, 2018 10:37:44 GMT -5

VERY good info. I feel like it also applies to people who aren't "clinically" this disordered but act childish. Like my Ex - I am not certain whether he IS or ISN'T a diagnosable case of narcissism. But - he acted like this, the circular argument thing, and that "habit" became more of him as he got older and had less activities to fill his time. I liked: The only thing more torturous than allowing one’s life to be controlled by emotional reasoning is allowing your day-to-day life to be determined by another person’s emotional reasoning. And BEST quote: Ultimately you win by not fighting.
Great article,

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Circular arguments, Emotional Reasoning and JADE

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