For those who think a SM is their last chance for love

If you are in an ILIASM shithole, that's one thing - and it is a stand alone thing.

You can either stay in it, or, with a great deal of discomfort and angst, you could end it.

Now lets say that after doing your due diligence, you elect to end the problem of being in an LIASM shithole by ending the marriage.

That will put an end to that intractable problem.

And, it will create a whole new set of problems for you.
Like how you are going to conduct your single life, how you are going to finance it, how you are going to co-parent etc etc etc.

And as you resolve these "new" problems, further even "newer" problems will emerge.
Like does this woman who keeps running into me on the train fancy me, and wtf will I do if she does.
Like what gives with that sales rep bloke who - I think - is flirting with me when he calls in.
Like what if (if I am open to the idea) I am not attracting anything into my orbit.

And as you resolve those problems, then another set of brand new problems will emerge.
Is there something I need to do to (if I am open to that idea) about what I am presenting.
Is that sales rep an axe murderer.
Is that train woman a gold-digger.

And as you resolve these things, yep - another brand new block of problems emerge.
Like that sales rep stood me up on having that coffee we agreed on.
The train woman has turned out to be a really nice chick, could she be the one.

Point I am trying to get at is, that the process keeps throwing up brand new problems. Solvable problems.
Whereas the problem of being in an ILIASM ain't solvable.
What it is, is "endable".
And then, what happens is pretty much up to you, and your choices and your problem solving abilities.

And, choosing to stay in the insolvable problem of being in an ILIASM shithole is a perfectly valid choice.

So is choosing to end the insolvable problem and embracing all the new solvable problems that emerge.