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Post by tiredofbeinglonely on Apr 17, 2018 16:35:50 GMT -5
I have been doing that for the past few years. I belong to clubs and do quite a bit of volunteer work...my husband was no part of that world. I could be happy alone...but I would really like to find someone to share my life with. I feel like I have been alone for 24 years already. Sad...but true. Are you outgoing or introverted? If the latter you might need to stretch outside your comfort zone. If a guy knows you're interested he's more Likely to make a move. It does open you up to potential heartache but that's part of the game. I'm pretty outgoing...race cars on the weekends with a couple of clubs at local race tracks. Most of the guys I race with are married...so not an option. Wish it was, there are some good looking guys (wink). |
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Post by tiredofbeinglonely on Apr 17, 2018 16:44:18 GMT -5
Your list of wants is so basic, so fundamental to a person's well-being, so touching. I'm almost one year out from a 27 years long loveless, joyless marriage and sorry but I've no answers but I can empathise; for what it's worth you are not alone. Very best wishes My daughter asked me "What's your type" My answer was "kind". My list of wants has really shrunk over the years. I know what is important...and it really isn't the outside package. Hope I find him someday... |
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Post by dinnaken on Apr 17, 2018 16:48:15 GMT -5
...and I hope you do
I think mine would be joyful (and funny but is that being greedy?)
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Post by tiredofbeinglonely on Apr 17, 2018 16:49:33 GMT -5
...and I hope you do I think mine would be joyful (and funny but is that being greedy?) Nope...that's a great combo  |
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Post by dinnaken on Apr 17, 2018 16:50:40 GMT -5
Thanks
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Post by WindSister on Apr 17, 2018 16:53:05 GMT -5
Your list of wants is so basic, so fundamental to a person's well-being, so touching. I'm almost one year out from a 27 years long loveless, joyless marriage and sorry but I've no answers but I can empathise; for what it's worth you are not alone. Very best wishes My daughter asked me "What's your type" My answer was "kind". My list of wants has really shrunk over the years. I know what is important...and it really isn't the outside package. Hope I find him someday... You will. Mine was kind and able to share joy and loyal. Found him! You will. |
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Post by shamwow on Apr 17, 2018 17:00:26 GMT -5
Are you outgoing or introverted? If the latter you might need to stretch outside your comfort zone. If a guy knows you're interested he's more Likely to make a move. It does open you up to potential heartache but that's part of the game. I'm pretty outgoing...race cars on the weekends with a couple of clubs at local race tracks. Most of the guys I race with are married...so not an option. Wish it was, there are some good looking guys (wink). Strange. As a single guy you think I'd have suggestions but I spend most of my free time on town with my kids and at AA meetings lol... |
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Post by baza on Apr 18, 2018 3:45:46 GMT -5
Sister tiredofbeinglonely , your last story in March suggested you were still in your deal then so you can only have been "out" by a matter of days at this point. Might be smart just to leave things settle for the moment. This is probably not the right time to be thinking real hard about another possible bloke. |
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Post by tiredofbeinglonely on Apr 18, 2018 6:37:04 GMT -5
Sister tiredofbeinglonely , your last story in March suggested you were still in your deal then so you can only have been "out" by a matter of days at this point. Might be smart just to leave things settle for the moment. This is probably not the right time to be thinking real hard about another possible bloke. True...things are relatively recent for me. I feel like I have been living on pause for years and don't want to wait any longer. |
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Post by baza on Apr 18, 2018 6:51:56 GMT -5
Your danger Sister tiredofbeinglonely , is that your self esteem has taken a good old belting, and that is going to take some time for you to repair. A lot of blokes may look pretty good (compared to a refuser spouse) but really might not be much of a "trade up" at all. When the time comes, be fussy. One more thing. The problem of "not having a bloke" is a helluva *better* problem to have than the problem of "being in an ILIASM shithole". |
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Post by northstarmom on Apr 18, 2018 7:24:46 GMT -5
“My daughter asked me "What's your type" My answer was "kind". My list of wants has really shrunk over the years. I know what is important...and it really isn't the outside package. ”
Don’t set standards less than what you really want. I doubt if you would be happy with a kind drug addicted homeless, malodorous, asexual .
There are many kind men who also enjoy sex like you do, are affectionate good lovers, can support themselves, share some of your interests and values and are men whom you enjoy being around and are sexually attracted to. You may not yet know or recognize them. But the world is big and many such men exist.
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Post by saarinista on Apr 18, 2018 13:08:42 GMT -5
“My daughter asked me "What's your type" My answer was "kind". My list of wants has really shrunk over the years. I know what is important...and it really isn't the outside package. ” Don’t set standards less than what you really want. I doubt if you would be happy with a kind drug addicted homeless, malodorous, asexual . There are many kind men who also enjoy sex like you do, are affectionate good lovers, can support themselves, share some of your interests and values and are men whom you enjoy being around and are sexually attracted to. You may not yet know or recognize them. But the world is big and many such men exist. Well said. Especially avoid the malodorous! Makes no sense to have one of those. Haha |
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Post by Caris on Apr 19, 2018 19:58:08 GMT -5
Your list of wants is so basic, so fundamental to a person's well-being, so touching. I'm almost one year out from a 27 years long loveless, joyless marriage and sorry but I've no answers but I can empathise; for what it's worth you are not alone. Very best wishes Have you had a date yet? I just past 4-year anniversary of my divorce, and not one date. |
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Post by dinnaken on Apr 21, 2018 15:32:44 GMT -5
Hi Caris It's good to drop back into the forum. I stopped posting as I realised that I needed to step away from the forum and spend some time trying to come to terms with what happened to me during my marriage. I have popped in once in a while to see how folk are getting on. No, I haven't had a date yet. I wanted some company and so I did ask a woman I know through work if she would like to meet up outside office hours but it never went anywhere beyond a few cups of coffee. We get on well and I do like her but the whole 'me too' thing was kicking off, I realised that she had a lot of her own issues (divorced 16 years ago) that she had never dealt with and, seeing red flags, I realised that my time was better spent sorting myself out. I've made a lot of progress but perhaps that's a story for a new thread. Best wishes |
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Post by northstarmom on Apr 21, 2018 16:25:21 GMT -5
“I've made a lot of progress but perhaps that's a story for a new thread.”
Sounds like a good topic to start a thread.
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