The ex-girlfriend that doesn't go away
Apr 13, 2018 12:14:33 GMT -5
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Post by WindSister on Apr 13, 2018 12:14:33 GMT -5
I can't believe I have another update on this crazy woman. But here it is...
Backstory, she was with my husband off and on for 3 and a half years prior to me (never lived together). They had been broken up (but still kinda seeing each other, fwb) 9 months before he met me. He broke things off completely with her after we had been on three dates because he told her he felt a future with me. SHE has been clinging to his family (on facebook, not real life, so, eh... whatever) and occasionally texting/emailing him ever since. (he has shown me all of those, as far as I know, but I trust him... and I was there for one of them, looking at his phone for map directions and saw she was clearly begging for his attention that he was not giving -- that was the first month we were together). Anyway, now she has officially been OUT of his life longer than they were even together, so she should be like dust in the wind ... gone.
But she clings.
My husband last night had this look on his face that told me he had some "news" for me. I was like, OMG.. what? He said, Well, Exgf has emailed me again. I was kinda relieved because honestly, I am pretty much over really caring about her and I trust him. So we just discussed it. He showed me her email and his response. I love that man!!!! He just reaffirms our relationship in my mind at every turn.
She put me down in the email. "I can't believe we can't be friends because of your insecure wife." "We had a good thing, why don't you remind her of that?" "She's just jealous and hateful, you deserve friends." "If she can't handle knowing about our friendship, let's just keep it from her. Please just call me tonight and let's get caught up in each other's lives. Let's be the friends we are supposed to be." Then she went on and on about her life, how she has grown and matured, her kids, how she no longer parties all night, her ex boyfriend, her family, her new car, her desire to sell her house, I mean she went on and ON (if we printed it out it would be 4 pages, easy).
I mean, WOW.
My H said he didn't even read it all, just skimmed, noticed the put downs about me and responded.
His response was short and sweet, "I have tried to be nice to you, but for some reason you are just not getting the message. My wife is not insecure, you are sneaky and wrong and she has every reason to doubt your motives. My ex-wife of 17 years doesn't even do these things you do. You and I are not meant to be anything to each other at this point. I have blocked you on facebook, blocked you on my phone and now I will block you on my email. I will never keep secrets from my wife, in fact, she will be reading all of this tonight. Take care of yourself and move on with your life. This is not healthy."
He said he feels really bad being mean, but she just doesn't seem to GET IT. Not sure if she responded, he blocked her on email (supposedly, it's a confusing process).
Again, it's the whole "secret" thing...... why does she keep pushing for that? Not once did she acknowledge me, reach out to me, etc. That doesn't tell me she wants to be friends with him, which would include at some level at least, friends with me, but it tells me she wants a secret affair with him. She's a shady ass snake. And while I don't get as ruffled as before, her constant sniffing around (and, um, downright attacks on my character) does tempt me to revert to redneck mode (and I am not even Southern) and get crazy on her.
But, I trust my husband to take care of it and put us first... he constantly does. I am so happy with him. Yes, he deserves friends, but he doesn't WANT shady friends. HE is choosing not to be friends with her. He knows she's bad news and would try to put a riff between us (his words). We don't invite such negativity in our life. Course, his kids keep trying to invite her to family functions... she will show up sometime, I am sure!
Anyway, just sharing. She needs to move along little doggie, move along!
Backstory, she was with my husband off and on for 3 and a half years prior to me (never lived together). They had been broken up (but still kinda seeing each other, fwb) 9 months before he met me. He broke things off completely with her after we had been on three dates because he told her he felt a future with me. SHE has been clinging to his family (on facebook, not real life, so, eh... whatever) and occasionally texting/emailing him ever since. (he has shown me all of those, as far as I know, but I trust him... and I was there for one of them, looking at his phone for map directions and saw she was clearly begging for his attention that he was not giving -- that was the first month we were together). Anyway, now she has officially been OUT of his life longer than they were even together, so she should be like dust in the wind ... gone.
But she clings.
My husband last night had this look on his face that told me he had some "news" for me. I was like, OMG.. what? He said, Well, Exgf has emailed me again. I was kinda relieved because honestly, I am pretty much over really caring about her and I trust him. So we just discussed it. He showed me her email and his response. I love that man!!!! He just reaffirms our relationship in my mind at every turn.
She put me down in the email. "I can't believe we can't be friends because of your insecure wife." "We had a good thing, why don't you remind her of that?" "She's just jealous and hateful, you deserve friends." "If she can't handle knowing about our friendship, let's just keep it from her. Please just call me tonight and let's get caught up in each other's lives. Let's be the friends we are supposed to be." Then she went on and on about her life, how she has grown and matured, her kids, how she no longer parties all night, her ex boyfriend, her family, her new car, her desire to sell her house, I mean she went on and ON (if we printed it out it would be 4 pages, easy).
I mean, WOW.
My H said he didn't even read it all, just skimmed, noticed the put downs about me and responded.
His response was short and sweet, "I have tried to be nice to you, but for some reason you are just not getting the message. My wife is not insecure, you are sneaky and wrong and she has every reason to doubt your motives. My ex-wife of 17 years doesn't even do these things you do. You and I are not meant to be anything to each other at this point. I have blocked you on facebook, blocked you on my phone and now I will block you on my email. I will never keep secrets from my wife, in fact, she will be reading all of this tonight. Take care of yourself and move on with your life. This is not healthy."
He said he feels really bad being mean, but she just doesn't seem to GET IT. Not sure if she responded, he blocked her on email (supposedly, it's a confusing process).
Again, it's the whole "secret" thing...... why does she keep pushing for that? Not once did she acknowledge me, reach out to me, etc. That doesn't tell me she wants to be friends with him, which would include at some level at least, friends with me, but it tells me she wants a secret affair with him. She's a shady ass snake. And while I don't get as ruffled as before, her constant sniffing around (and, um, downright attacks on my character) does tempt me to revert to redneck mode (and I am not even Southern) and get crazy on her.
But, I trust my husband to take care of it and put us first... he constantly does. I am so happy with him. Yes, he deserves friends, but he doesn't WANT shady friends. HE is choosing not to be friends with her. He knows she's bad news and would try to put a riff between us (his words). We don't invite such negativity in our life. Course, his kids keep trying to invite her to family functions... she will show up sometime, I am sure!
Anyway, just sharing. She needs to move along little doggie, move along!
