|
|
Post by nyartgal on Apr 10, 2018 10:24:50 GMT -5
Last night, after working all day, picking up the kids and making dinner---sneezing and sniffling with a sinus infection, no makeup, hat head, wearing 15 year old leggings---my husband told me 3 times how sexy I looked.
That's love, baby!
If you had any idea (well you probably do) of the lengths I went to in order to elicit that response from my ex-husband, you would laugh yourself silly. Lingerie, dancing, flirting, sexy outfits, sexy situations, an all expense paid trip to Italy...forget it. NOTHING. I couldn't get my ex to have sex with me in an idyllic Ligurian villa after two bottles of wine and a black lace negligee! And now my husband (of 5 years and two kids) is turned on just by my existence!
Still hard to believe I wasted so much energy and time trying to do the impossible, when the possible is so easy!
|
|
|
|
Post by WindSister on Apr 10, 2018 10:47:19 GMT -5
Still hard to believe I wasted so much energy and time trying to do the impossible, when the possible is so easy! Amen! Amen! AaaaAaaAaAaa-MEN! Also, extremely happy for you, thanks for sharing! A lot of us "get it" because we are also living it and I get it how it can still shock and wow a gal when it happens!  |
|
|
|
Post by bballgirl on Apr 10, 2018 11:42:28 GMT -5
That's awesome and how it's supposed to be.
I'm happy for you!
|
|
|
|
Post by shamwow on Apr 10, 2018 15:05:25 GMT -5
Still hard to believe I wasted so much energy and time trying to do the impossible, when the possible is so easy! Amen! Amen! AaaaAaaAaAaa-MEN! Also, extremely happy for you, thanks for sharing! A lot of us "get it" because we are also living it and I get it how it can still shock and wow a gal when it happens! Amen to your amen. |
|
|
|
Post by baza on Apr 10, 2018 18:45:11 GMT -5
I also have a story from yesterday (but nowhere near as raunchy)
Ms enna got home from her meeting, and once the dog had warned me her car was a few minutes away I made coffee and had it waiting when she arrived.
About half way through our coffee she says - "You know, it is just so cool to come home to someone who gives a shit".
Not the most lavish of praise I'd agree, but just one of those little affirmations that mean a lot.
|
|
|
|
Post by elkclan2 on Apr 11, 2018 2:16:36 GMT -5
baz I do have great sex in my current relationship, but it's those little things that matter as much. I had coffee made for me when I arrived home after an errand. I look back and I can't believe I WANTED to have sex with a man who I had to drag down for dinner (and I'm a good cook) who then complained about it not being ON the table (just ready to serve up) and then retreated as soon as he was finished eating leaving his plate on the table and then complained about the table not being clear. Ugh, I feel shame even writing that. In this relationship he offers to help get dinner on the table which sometimes I take up and sometimes I don't, he cooks sometimes as well (I'm a better cook than he is in general so I prefer to do it most nights, but he's not bad), and then cleans up afterward. He doesn't clear the table unless we are alone as I have introduced a rule that children clear, but together we reinforce that rule.
|
|
|
|
Post by northstarmom on Apr 11, 2018 5:39:27 GMT -5
“About half way through our coffee she says - "You know, it is just so cool to come home to someone who gives a shit.”
This.
|
|
|
|
Post by nyartgal on Apr 11, 2018 10:39:08 GMT -5
“About half way through our coffee she says - "You know, it is just so cool to come home to someone who gives a shit.” This. YES! So many things that make me feel we are a team. I just put away the groceries and my H came in the kitchen and said, "Oh, you put away the food? Thank you for doing that." It's just amazing to be appreciated....and it's romantic too! Mutual appreciation and good sex are connected. |
|
|
|
Post by WindSister on Apr 11, 2018 12:09:32 GMT -5
Mutual appreciation and good sex are connected. I always say appreciation fans the flames of love. I know that sounds "bacon candle"-ish to those still in a sexless marriage, but in a healthy relationship, it's true. |
|
