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Post by elkclan2 on Mar 12, 2018 11:16:47 GMT -5
Ha ha, let her have Mickey and Minnie - personally i'd get rid of that shit. (If your H is like many men I know he wont even notice the glassware...) Honestly I wouldn't have that in the house (but then again my thing IS glassware, china, etc...I drink out of a wine glass that was a wedding gift to my partner from his mother because it's the nicest glass in his house. I eat off dishes that belonged to his ex-girlfriend, but I like them. I've already told him that his chintzy coffee mugs are going when we move in- and not because they have sentimental value but because they're tacky.)
I wouldn't even be able to keep my eye roll internal... The great thing about "step" grandkids is that there's less drama and it's much easier to be a step grandparent without tension. Develop your own thing.
15 years from now, you'll be the motorcycle chick and she'll be the Disney chick and you can bet your bottom dollar which one is gonna be cooler. Play the long game by being your cooler self.
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Post by elkclan2 on Mar 12, 2018 11:21:44 GMT -5
Oh and as to photo albums - I kept my parents wedding album after they divorced. It was actually one of the coolest wedding albums I'd ever seen -just lots and lots of candids and more importantly many of them are relatives who are long gone now. Same for my wedding album. I don't look at it though. I actually still have wedding pics up of me and my cousin and me and my brother. I should ask my partner if that bugs him, but they are great pics of me and two people I adore, so I keep them. But if they bothered my man, I'd put them away.
OH - that reminds me - I need to start taking pictures of all my boys. I want to put them up in our house(s).
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Post by WindSister on Mar 12, 2018 14:36:08 GMT -5
Thanks, elkclan2. I appreciate when others help me feel normal for my normal feelings, I really, really do. No, I won't give away the Mickey Mouse Glassware; I have been making Mickey by bitch every time I drink milk for three years now. I own those glasses!  (that was meant to be funny) Seriously --- my tortured mind doesn't let me dwell in this place of needing to feel better than her for long. I skate around here a bit and then get pissed at myself, calling for myself to rise up and do better. I don't need to be better than anyone to feel good about myself. I know this, yet sometimes I may slip a bit. |
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Post by JMX on Mar 12, 2018 23:03:25 GMT -5
Geez. No wonder he divorced her. I have serious misgivings about adults who LURVE Disney or other cartoon characters. It seems... unnatural. I cannot imagine couples that go to Disney for honeymoons without kids? Give me a cheesy hotel room with a champagne glass hot tub in the Poconos, please. At least kids wouldn’t be all over the place  Oh well. Different strokes for different folks. Meh. |
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Post by elkclan2 on Mar 20, 2018 5:44:49 GMT -5
Ha ha JMX - I hear ya. I did once make a terrible mistake by bitching about one of my cousins who does to Disney usually twice a year but at least once. She does have kids, but I don't get that they're the driving force on this. I was yucking it up with a colleague when another one piped up with "We go every year..." They go from England to FLORIDA every year to go to Disney. WTAF? The couple are in their 50s and take their early 20s daughter. There is just soooo much of the world to see.
My partner went to his ex's house to pick up some damson gin and said that her new partner had stencilled Disney inspirational sayings in the entryway to her house. He's a grown ass man. They have no kids.
ETA: On the other hand, I don't go on holiday to a foreign type place or even within country without visiting the local town hall or some type of gov administrative building if it's at all do-able. I'm still pissed my ex and my brother 'out-voted' me and I missed the Oslo town hall. I realise this is weird. However, I only make travel companions do about 5-10 minutes of it.
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Post by northstarmom on Mar 20, 2018 6:23:19 GMT -5
I I live just hours from Disney. Btdt a couple of times. Have no more desire for that kind of forced fun.
I have several adult friends who go a lot. I’ve noticed that all of them grew up in abusive families. One’s mom was so emotionally abusive that as a teen, my friend had to go to court to divorce her mom.
Once I realized that Disney was helping my friends experience a happy childhood that’s when I stopped secretly rolling my eyes when they mentioned yet another Disney trip.
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Post by WindSister on Mar 20, 2018 7:00:33 GMT -5
I'll continue my internal secret eye roll until I feel no need to. Making every party about her and her likes gets old. The cued laughter gets old. There's nothing about me I need to fix here, just a tradition I need to endure.
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Post by elkclan2 on Mar 20, 2018 17:50:23 GMT -5
OK, I never thought of it that way. I don't mind amusement parks and I even think Disney make pretty good movies. It's just really not my thing. My parents hated amusement parks and we never went. I take my son. He loves it. For a number of years it meant I had to go on the roller coasters even though I'm terrified. My partner doesn't mind going to amusement parks, but he won't ride the rides at all. When we went to France last summer my son asked for a Disney trip and I said no, but I did take him to Parc Asterix and convinced him it would be much more fun. He probably did have more fun. I thought I was gonna hurl - literally hurl - after 3 red-rated rides in a row.
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Post by JMX on Mar 21, 2018 11:12:54 GMT -5
northstarmom - I can definitely see that and will try not to roll my eyes too hard at everyone but reserve the right to do so for some We have a faction of family - his side not mine - that is very... religiously wholesome. Their relationship with Disney is just bizarre to me, as well as their focus on “families are forever” considering most don’t practice what they preach. They have given more attention to Disney than they ever did to my husband - their blood. I enjoy people watching - to sit on a bench and watch a family of 5 in matching Mickey Mouse shirts, khakis and corresponding ears, crowded in a corner is quite a site! Kids crying and needing a nap, the couple yelling at each other and cussing and “Which way is FRONTIER LAND? We HAVE to make our CHARACTER BREAKFAST!!!” “WHAT THE FUCK!! YOU CANNOT READ A FUCKING MAP” “PULL YOUR SHIT TOGETHER - this is for the CHILDREN!!!!!!” Disney brings out the best in people
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Post by bballgirl on Mar 21, 2018 11:33:48 GMT -5
northstarmom - I can definitely see that and will try not to roll my eyes too hard at everyone but reserve the right to do so for some We have a faction of family - his side not mine - that is very... religiously wholesome. Their relationship with Disney is just bizarre to me, as well as their focus on “families are forever” considering most don’t practice what they preach. They have given more attention to Disney than they ever did to my husband - their blood. I enjoy people watching - to sit on a bench and watch a family of 5 in matching Mickey Mouse shirts, khakis and corresponding ears, crowded in a corner is quite a site! Kids crying and needing a nap, the couple yelling at each other and cussing and “Which way is FRONTIER LAND? We HAVE to make our CHARACTER BREAKFAST!!!” “WHAT THE FUCK!! YOU CANNOT READ A FUCKING MAP” “PULL YOUR SHIT TOGETHER - this is for the CHILDREN!!!!!!” Disney brings out the best in people Ha! That was great!! That's why the majority of the time I went to Disney I took one child at a time, gave them one on one time with mommy and we had a fun day!! I think as a family we went twice and that was fine but I remember H and I did get into an argument because I was walking too fast! Lol Probably because I was in a shithole marriage and I didn't want to walk with him! Lol |
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