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Post by shamwow on Aug 7, 2018 8:17:17 GMT -5
Brief (and boring) update: my lawyer wanted me to push things back until mid-September to be certain that my job is secure. She has an excellent point so I’m taking her advice and we will now finalize in September. What’s one more month? Things are going well. I continue to just be... happy and at peace with my decision. My STBX is on excellent behavior and it looks like he’s going to be a much better ex than husband. No news (or not much news) is good news! Waiting one more month to make sure the job is secure is an EXCELLENT idea. ballofconfusion had an excellent plan that was going flawlessly until she lost her new high paying job a month in. She scrambled for months to recover from that. If there is no harm in staying another month your attorney is probably providing wise counsel. |
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Post by baza on Aug 7, 2018 23:54:16 GMT -5
I can't add much here.
Other than, the hard choices you made back "then" are starting to reap consequences, good consequences, "now".
With more to come, as the hard choices you make "today", set up favourable consequences for "tomorrow".
(apart from acts of God obviously)
Go @elle !!!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 28, 2018 22:29:44 GMT -5
It’s official. Mr. Elle is now my ex. I’m so proud of myself for following through and making it to this point. My exit plan saved my life. I now have real hope again for a brighter future, one where I no longer subjugate myself and all of my needs to a functional alcoholic.
The only remaining glitch is that Mr. Elle refused to move out until the divorce was final and I did not wish to fight him on that point. He is not a man to pick fights with. He operates on his own directives only. Besides that, he duped me into believing he’d be a good roommate and help me pay the bills and take care of the kids for a while. But you guessed it, he had yet another drinking episode and well, it was yet another final straw for me.
So, I’ve asked him to be out by November. I’ll keep pushing. He needs to go. And he will.
I’m not looking for advice. Just sharing the amazing news that I am officially single!!! Go me!
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Post by choosinghappy on Sept 28, 2018 22:34:43 GMT -5
Congratulations!!! Way to stick to your guns @elle and turn your life into what you want it to be!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 28, 2018 22:38:03 GMT -5
Congratulations!!! Way to stick to your guns @elle and turn your life into what you want it to be! Girlfriend, you and me both! We are creating the lives we deserve and choosing happiness! |
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Post by solodriver on Sept 28, 2018 23:06:50 GMT -5
Yeahhhhh Elle!  |
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Post by javba on Sept 28, 2018 23:10:44 GMT -5
Happy for you girls 👍🏽👍🏽
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Post by csl on Sept 29, 2018 8:34:54 GMT -5
It’s official. Mr. Elle is now my ex. I’m so proud of myself for following through and making it to this point. My exit plan saved my life. I now have real hope again for a brighter future, one where I no longer subjugate myself and all of my needs to a functional alcoholic. The only remaining glitch is that Mr. Elle refused to move out until the divorce was final and I did not wish to fight him on that point. He is not a man to pick fights with. He operates on his own directives only. Besides that, he duped me into believing he’d be a good roommate and help me pay the bills and take care of the kids for a while. But you guessed it, he had yet another drinking episode and well, it was yet another final straw for me. So, I’ve asked him to be out by November. I’ll keep pushing. He needs to go. And he will. I’m not looking for advice. Just sharing the amazing news that I am officially single!!! Go me! "Asked"? To paraphrase Yoda, "There is no ask, do or do not." On Nov. 1, call the locksmith and change the locks. A packed suitcase on the porch. |
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Post by workingonit on Sept 29, 2018 19:36:42 GMT -5
Amazing!! Live the life you are dreaming of!
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Post by ggold on Sept 29, 2018 20:00:45 GMT -5
@elle
Congratulations! I am so proud of you. May you experience all the happiness you deserve!!
xo
G
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Post by GeekGoddess on Sept 29, 2018 20:54:19 GMT -5
Congratulations on being true to yourself, @elle. It’s a hard row to hoe, but the harvest is absolutely worth the effort. I kind of agree with csl about the locksmith approach. I would assume (so let me ask): him moving out, you keeping house - that’s all spelled out in that official decree, isn’t it? I’m so happy for you to have the freedom to make the life you want for yourself. PS - there isn’t REALLY a thing as a functional alcoholic IMO. If he’s an alcoholic, his disease will worsen. Get him out of your house/property post-haste. |
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Post by bballgirl on Sept 29, 2018 21:39:12 GMT -5
Congrats!! I’m so happy for you!!
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Post by warmways on Sept 29, 2018 22:00:51 GMT -5
Yay! Good for you!!
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 29, 2018 22:17:30 GMT -5
Welcome to opposite land!!
Here's to new beginnings!
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Post by shamwow on Sept 30, 2018 16:06:13 GMT -5
Congratulations on being true to yourself, @elle. It’s a hard row to hoe, but the harvest is absolutely worth the effort. I kind of agree with csl about the locksmith approach. I would assume (so let me ask): him moving out, you keeping house - that’s all spelled out in that official decree, isn’t it? I’m so happy for you to have the freedom to make the life you want for yourself. PS - there isn’t REALLY a thing as a functional alcoholic IMO. If he’s an alcoholic, his disease will worsen. Get him out of your house/property post-haste. Agree 100 percent. |
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