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Post by Dan on Mar 11, 2018 9:24:23 GMT -5
I think it's important to be able to discern the health of our own relationships without comparing it to other's. My wife and I share many views about the world, but she is an introvert and a homebody. I am an extrovert and want to socialize more. I want to be with someone where we both prefer each other, but still want to go out in the world and experience things (together by ourselves) AND interact with other people as a couple (trips/tours, dinner parties, etc.) That is one of the non-sexual things I miss very much in my current marriage. And the fact that I was inclined to say "current marriage" and didn't edit out the word "current" shows that I'm solidly thinking that there will be a next one, or at least a next significant relationship. |
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Post by WindSister on Mar 11, 2018 9:37:20 GMT -5
I think it's important to be able to discern the health of our own relationships without comparing it to other's. My wife and I share many views about the world, but she is an introvert and a homebody. I am an extrovert and want to socialize more. I want to be with someone where we both prefer each other, but still want to go out in the world and experience things (together by ourselves) AND interact with other people as a couple (trips/tours, dinner parties, etc.) That is one of the non-sexual things I miss very much in my current marriage. And the fact that I was inclined to say "current marriage" and didn't edit out the word "current" shows that I'm solidly thinking that there will be a next one, or at least a next significant relationship. Your solid thinking, dreaming, envisioning has a good chance of coming to light.  And, most would say what you envision is how relationships should be. We prefer each other and stop at that. I get lectured a lot about that but I'm still saying it's healthy for us. It's my vision, it's his. We like it. Every couple is free to create the relationship that works for them. |
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