There's an app for that!

www.gottman.com/couples/apps/
Posting this here because there's a link to an app. It's basically a scented candles approach so it won't help all SM, but it MAY be a tool for a still functional relationship to spice things up a bit.

If scented candles NEVER work, then there is no hope for relationships, they would all just turn to dust.

We are not in a dry spell at all, with both our drives being pretty high the last month. (I do think doing it adds to more of doing it!). Even so, I stumbled upon this app last week and became intrigued by the sex questions to ask him and her. I thought that would be fun for us to explore. We had a date set up for Friday night, meeting at a bar for happy hour. When we do that, we like to do the "meeting a stranger" role play...we each come as a different character, name and kinda have fun with it. We don't stick to it alk night, but have fun reverting in and out of chatacter. I don't know, sounds cheesy but is always fun with laughs and some excitement too.

Friday I sent him the link to the app and asked if he wanted our ultra ego selves to ask each other sex questions at the bar? He said hell yeah!

So....we did. It was hot in our own way, which included silliness and laughter but also, it was revealing and insightful and exciting.

We were in a public place so he blushed sometimes (more than me, lol, but I am slightly more outgoing sexually than him). I loved it when he blushed. He then asked all serious, can we do that?? I said yes... and later that night we did.

He's been talking about it all weekend with a definite pep in his step. lol

My point? Sometimes these tools DO help.

I think they can also reveal trouble. Had he shut me out, shut me down, I'd be writing something different here, wouldn't I?