The Upside of Certain Affairs
Feb 4, 2018 9:54:09 GMT -5
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Post by brian on Feb 4, 2018 9:54:09 GMT -5
And that is that the outcomes of it are completely UNcertain.
Introducing a 3rd party into an already dysfunctional situation can and often does spin things off at some crazy tangents that you cannot manage, some predictable, some not.
For that reason, you may as well treat it like a divorce as far as your preparation goes, so you can mitigate the damage as much as you can from the fallout, and at the very least, establish exactly what the stakes are in this highly adventurous choice.
And this is true even if you don’t have an affair, yet appear to behave as if you are... if you view the evidence with a certain preconceived bias. If you suddenly decide to start doing things for yourself and schedule evenigs out (even if it’s a professional networking event or out drinking a couple beers with friends). Those things are seen as abnormal and potential circumstantial evidence of something more... like meeting an AP. Even if there isn’t one.
When someone sees smoke, maybe it’s the marriage burning and not the hot flames of an extramarital affair.
Edit: people see what they want to see to make the story they want to be true, be true. All because it suits them or fits their biases in life. We all do it, but it hurts when it’s personal.
