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mypaintbrushes Full Member Posts: 410	The positives of divorce Jan 19, 2018 14:33:31 GMT -5 via mobile greatcoastal, bballgirl, and 1 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by mypaintbrushes on Jan 19, 2018 14:33:31 GMT -5 www.refinery29.com/benefits-to-divorce

bballgirl Senior Members Posts: 3,462	The positives of divorce Jan 19, 2018 16:03:08 GMT -5 via mobile mypaintbrushes likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by bballgirl on Jan 19, 2018 16:03:08 GMT -5 I can relate to all of that! Divorce is not the end of the world.

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The positives of divorce Jan 22, 2018 10:20:29 GMT -5

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Post by Dan on Jan 22, 2018 10:20:29 GMT -5

The (woman-centric) article suggests these benefits:

You’ll be a hell of a lot happier.
You’ll have more freedom and control.
You’ll have a brand-new (and potentially better) sex life.
You’ll gain a new sense of confidence.
The good stuff will keep on giving.

FWIW: I don't think my wife -- if/when she is on the receiving end of a divorce -- will identify with ANY of those.

UPDATE: Just wanted to clarify: the main reason I think this article isn't for her is that it sounds like it is written for a reasonably confident (except for the pending divorce) 25 to 45 year old. That doesn't describe my wife! I'm all for speaking some encouraging words, and I have no trouble with the article in that it is trying to do that, at least for some segment of readers. I could have instead said: "I don't think my wife is in the group of women that this article is targeted to."

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The positives of divorce Jan 22, 2018 10:32:49 GMT -5 obobfla likes this

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Jan 22, 2018 10:20:29 GMT -5 Dan said:

She may be happier. She will still have control (no matter who she is around) and she will dismiss any guilt or blame and keep up her fake confidence, for the next victims.

But that will no longer be your concern.

Stars can't shine without darkness.

WindSister Senior Members I have thoughts, but I could be wrong ;) Posts: 1,550 Age Range: 41-45	The positives of divorce Jan 22, 2018 14:44:41 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by WindSister on Jan 22, 2018 14:44:41 GMT -5 Yup. Not a failure, just another experience in life.
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The positives of divorce Jan 22, 2018 21:26:55 GMT -5

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Post by baza on Jan 22, 2018 21:26:55 GMT -5

Opened the link, saw it was actually about the script for a tv show (starring Sarah Jessica Parker no less - which presumably somehow gives it extra cred).
Closed the link.

Anyway, I was thinking about two (2) different time frames in my life.
Pre 2009
Post 2009.

The significance of 2009 being when I left my marriage.

From my birth to 2009, getting divorced was most assuredly NOT the worst thing that happened to me.
At worst (best ?) it might have made the top 10 things.

From 2009 to now 2018, getting divorced was again, definitely not the worst (best ?) thing that happened to me.
In fact - without wishing to disrespect my ex (and now deceased) missus - it was probably the best thing that happened to me in the 2009-2018 period. Or if not the best thing, then pretty close to it.

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The positives of divorce

Post by mypaintbrushes on Jan 19, 2018 14:33:31 GMT -5

Post by bballgirl on Jan 19, 2018 16:03:08 GMT -5

Post by Dan on Jan 22, 2018 10:20:29 GMT -5

Post by greatcoastal on Jan 22, 2018 10:32:49 GMT -5

Post by WindSister on Jan 22, 2018 14:44:41 GMT -5

Post by baza on Jan 22, 2018 21:26:55 GMT -5

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