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Post by lwoetin on Mar 30, 2016 23:00:38 GMT -5
Lwoetin: And if I'm wrong, then I have sex to look forward to in another life. You have a LOT more patience than I do! Well, at least I'm having fun chatting with everyone here. The journey matters too! Please advise.... So I understand how giving oral can be undesireable...tiring, not tasteful....But what can be so bad about receiving it when you are female? All you have to do is enjoy it right? There is no work involved. Is the technique that displeases or what other reasons can there be? |
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Post by unmatched on Mar 30, 2016 23:10:04 GMT -5
Lwoetin: And if I'm wrong, then I have sex to look forward to in another life. You have a LOT more patience than I do! Well, at least I'm having fun chatting with everyone here. The journey matters too! Please advise.... So I understand how giving oral can be undesireable...tiring, not tasteful....But what can be so bad about receiving it when you are female? All you have to do is enjoy it right? There is no work involved. Is the technique that displeases or what other reasons can there be? My wife doesn't like it because she feels too exposed and vulnerable. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 31, 2016 6:30:33 GMT -5
Well, at least I'm having fun chatting with everyone here. The journey matters too! Please advise.... So I understand how giving oral can be undesireable...tiring, not tasteful....But what can be so bad about receiving it when you are female? All you have to do is enjoy it right? There is no work involved. Is the technique that displeases or what other reasons can there be? When I was dating the first time around, my dates were not the eager givers I have since encountered. So the feelings of shame and rejection from the first time around make me feel any man will be hating every minute of it and I can't enjoy myself if I think he's hating it. Tied to that, I feel pressure to finish asap which of course produces the opposite effect. It's sad, I wish I could go back and bring a generous giver back to the past to be my first experience. |
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Post by lwoetin on Mar 31, 2016 22:54:04 GMT -5
Please advise.... So I understand how giving oral can be undesireable...tiring, not tasteful....But what can be so bad about receiving it when you are female? All you have to do is enjoy it right? There is no work involved. Is the technique that displeases or what other reasons can there be? My wife doesn't like it because she feels too exposed and vulnerable. But that is the pleasure of having sex with your spouse...to expose one's self and feel vulnerable voluntarily. I would not want to be exposed and vulnerable to anyone I don't trust. There was a point when my wife would not want to have sex that I started thinking whether she was saving herself for another person in the future. I was so confused about this ILIASM thing. Now I'm a little less confused. |
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Post by lwoetin on Mar 31, 2016 23:23:00 GMT -5
Please advise.... So I understand how giving oral can be undesireable...tiring, not tasteful....But what can be so bad about receiving it when you are female? All you have to do is enjoy it right? There is no work involved. Is the technique that displeases or what other reasons can there be? When I was dating the first time around, my dates were not the eager givers I have since encountered. So the feelings of shame and rejection from the first time around make me feel any man will be hating every minute of it and I can't enjoy myself if I think he's hating it. Tied to that, I feel pressure to finish asap which of course produces the opposite effect. It's sad, I wish I could go back and bring a generous giver back to the past to be my first experience. My wife would apologize for taking too long and it doesn't seem to matter to her that I actually enjoy the activity. To me it is the woman who is giving more by giving herself. The guy is just enjoying the generous offering. happyhelen is definitely making her man happy too. (I would gladly not had a first experience...I am still haunted and suffering.) |
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