resource: "Smart Marriage" website
Jan 15, 2018 17:58:49 GMT -5
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Post by Dan on Jan 15, 2018 17:58:49 GMT -5
I recently stumbled across this.
Doesn't look like it is trying to sell something. (That's good.)
Doesn't look as simple-minded as the normal "bacon-scented candle" drivel. (That's good.)
But -- as usual -- it probably won't help members here, as things are pretty far gone by the time you have found this forum. (Sorry, 'bout that.)
Nonetheless, I post it, on the off chance that even ONE PERSON someday gets something useful out of it.
www.smartmarriages.com/index.html
I actually agree with its notional premise: marriage cannot be based solely on "love", any more than you can win a professional sports game based solely on "team spirit". Marriage skills can be learned, refined, and embraced.
From the site:
Again -- sorry -- there is not necessarily much here to address a sexless marriage.
Doesn't look like it is trying to sell something. (That's good.)
Doesn't look as simple-minded as the normal "bacon-scented candle" drivel. (That's good.)
But -- as usual -- it probably won't help members here, as things are pretty far gone by the time you have found this forum. (Sorry, 'bout that.)
Nonetheless, I post it, on the off chance that even ONE PERSON someday gets something useful out of it.
www.smartmarriages.com/index.html
I actually agree with its notional premise: marriage cannot be based solely on "love", any more than you can win a professional sports game based solely on "team spirit". Marriage skills can be learned, refined, and embraced.
From the site:
In fact, successful couples have the same number of disagreements as couples who divorce. Even more interesting, research shows that all couples disagree about the same basic issues - money, kids, sex, housework, in-laws, and time.
The difference between successful and unsuccessful couples is how they handle these differences.
Successful couples disagree in a way that makes their relationship stronger. They also have other skills, knowledge, and attitudes that help them build and maintain happiness and satisfaction.
The good news is that anyone can learn to do it – (marriage) – better and smarter. Couples can un-learn the behaviors that destroy love and replace them with behaviors that keep their love alive.
The difference between successful and unsuccessful couples is how they handle these differences.
Successful couples disagree in a way that makes their relationship stronger. They also have other skills, knowledge, and attitudes that help them build and maintain happiness and satisfaction.
The good news is that anyone can learn to do it – (marriage) – better and smarter. Couples can un-learn the behaviors that destroy love and replace them with behaviors that keep their love alive.
