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Post by darktippedrose on Dec 17, 2017 18:42:46 GMT -5
My husband, whenever he talks with his daughters (older ones) they talk over me. Its like I'm not even there. And since I'm nerdy and socially awkward, I don't even know how to be relevant. and if I say anything, my husband reminds me, not so gently, about how hyper sensitive I am.
Does anyone's spouses do that?
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Post by hopingforachange on Dec 17, 2017 21:02:02 GMT -5
He needs a swift kick in the balls
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Post by baza on Dec 17, 2017 21:17:29 GMT -5
Another unsavoury behaviour of your spouse, to add to the multitude of bullshit and unethical behaviours your stories have detailed about him over the years.
With 'more to come' presumably.
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Post by M2G on Dec 18, 2017 15:36:13 GMT -5
That, is one of the major things I do that pisses off my W, and I am focused on learning not to do anymore. It's very invalidating, as if what she doesn't matter - and it pisses me off too, when I'm at the other end of it because of whomever.
Root cause (for me): being too self absorbed with a short attention span. Always trying to make sure I get my 2 cents in.
My MO for change: When my W (or anyone else for that matter) starts talking, I stop, look her/them in the eyes, empathise if necessary, and listen.
So far, been getting a LOT better - just have to be mindful going forward.
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Post by bballgirl on Dec 18, 2017 16:14:09 GMT -5
I would have already poisoned him with arsenic, I'd take my chances with a jury, your stories, and a temporary insanity plea. The way I see it 20% of the members of the jury are in a SM they would understand the temporary insanity. No way it's a unanimous vote.
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Post by darktippedrose on Dec 18, 2017 21:26:16 GMT -5
bballgirl hehe, too funny. Wish I had friends like you in real life. That I can see, not just online. hehe.
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Post by neonspace on Dec 18, 2017 23:43:58 GMT -5
I get talked over all the time, by everyone in my family. They know it drives me nuts. I don't blame the kids they are just modeling the behavior they have seen. I remember when my wife and I were dating and at a family gathering. Her whole family did it. After awhile everyone is yelling trying to out talk each other. I knew what I was getting into I guess.
I'm also an introvert and introverts are more sensitive to being interrupted than extroverts.
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Post by darktippedrose on Dec 19, 2017 16:19:24 GMT -5
I am an introvert. I am more shy than not. And quiet. big crowds are very intimidating to me, especially worse since everyone knows my relatives and knows me by extension or whatever.
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