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Post by mypaintbrushes on Dec 1, 2017 20:41:48 GMT -5
I got removed from a Kik chat I’ve been a part of for a while today. No warning. Ostensibly because the mods decided my friend and I were “too negative”. Ironically, I hadn’t complained about anything in at least a week or two, I believe. (And the group was all about Support and whatnot, lol)
Makes me wonder.... I come across as one way on some sites like this one, but am completely different in person. I think because I tend to “talk things out”.
Anyway, apologies for having turned anyone here off!
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Post by GeekGoddess on Dec 1, 2017 22:57:22 GMT -5
You’ve not ever turned me off. This site, for me, was about bringing out truths that I couldn’t (at first) share ANYwhere else. Truth really hurts, especially because I had been lying to myself up until then about how broken my primary relationship was at that point. It ain’t pretty and it’s often quite ugly.
We aren’t here to judge each other.
Hang in there, sister.
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Post by DryCreek on Dec 2, 2017 0:49:20 GMT -5
mypaintbrushes, members here seem to be a bit more grounded than other places I've seen. I.e., less prone to be fragile, and willing to dish it back instead of being offended if they disagree. Maybe it has something to do with coming to grips with an uncomfortable truth.
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Post by mypaintbrushes on Dec 2, 2017 2:08:12 GMT -5
You’ve not ever turned me off. This site, for me, was about bringing out truths that I couldn’t (at first) share ANYwhere else. Truth really hurts, especially because I had been lying to myself up until then about how broken my primary relationship was at that point. It ain’t pretty and it’s often quite ugly. We aren’t here to judge each other. Hang in there, sister. Thank you for understanding. I am pretty different in person than on here - at least I believe so. But getting the heave-ho from a group hurt. At least now I know why they call the app “Kik”. 😂 |
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Post by mypaintbrushes on Dec 2, 2017 2:09:57 GMT -5
mypaintbrushes, members here seem to be a bit more grounded than other places I've seen. I.e., less prone to be fragile, and willing to dish it back instead of being offended if they disagree. Maybe it has something to do with coming to grips with an uncomfortable truth. Perhaps. I know most places I speak, outside of my therapist’s office, it seems something, out of necessity, gets held back. Because shit like what I’ve described happens! |
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Post by h on Dec 2, 2017 7:14:21 GMT -5
Don't hold back here. This place is for honesty and with what we've all been through, I doubt anyone would be offended. We've felt the same things and all needed to vent at times. Feel free to let it all out any time you need to.☺
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Post by mypaintbrushes on Dec 2, 2017 12:38:18 GMT -5
Don't hold back here. This place is for honesty and with what we've all been through, I doubt anyone would be offended. We've felt the same things and all needed to vent at times. Feel free to let it all out any time you need to.☺ My story isn’t the most shocking, but it surprises even me sometimes. You sure? 😉 |
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Post by northstarmom on Dec 2, 2017 15:07:03 GMT -5
Most people are here because they are in soul searing SMs. Of course they will vent and complain. This site was born out of unhappiness and may be the only place people can be their own unhappy, authentic selves around people who empathize.
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Post by jim44444 on Dec 2, 2017 17:51:37 GMT -5
I got removed from a Kik chat I’ve been a part of for a while today. No warning. Ostensibly because the mods decided my friend and I were “too negative”. Ironically, I hadn’t complained about anything in at least a week or two, I believe. (And the group was all about Support and whatnot, lol) Makes me wonder.... I come across as one way on some sites like this one, but am completely different in person. I think because I tend to “talk things out”. Anyway, apologies for having turned anyone here off! I will start off by saying I have no experience with KiK so my thoughts are probably complete bullshit. I would suggest that you and your friend start a new chat group with you as the mods. Then invite the members of the other group except for the mods. Send the mods a message notifying them that they are banned from your group and they can go fuck themselves. |
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Post by mypaintbrushes on Dec 2, 2017 18:10:31 GMT -5
I got removed from a Kik chat I’ve been a part of for a while today. No warning. Ostensibly because the mods decided my friend and I were “too negative”. Ironically, I hadn’t complained about anything in at least a week or two, I believe. (And the group was all about Support and whatnot, lol) Makes me wonder.... I come across as one way on some sites like this one, but am completely different in person. I think because I tend to “talk things out”. Anyway, apologies for having turned anyone here off! I will start off by saying I have no experience with KiK so my thoughts are probably complete bullshit. I would suggest that you and your friend start a new chat group with you as the mods. Then invite the members of the other group except for the mods. Send the mods a message notifying them that they are banned from your group and they can go fuck themselves. Lol! Well, she invited me to a different chat group and we’ve continued our conversations there. It’s funny; I received a screen shot from someone still in the old group. One of the mods wrote a book about how much she hates her neighbor just after this happened. So... 🤷♀️ |
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Post by petrushka on Dec 2, 2017 21:47:38 GMT -5
mypaintbrushes , "it ürür, kervan yürür" Turkish proverb 'the dogs are barking, but the caravan moves on'. The thing to keep in mind always is that the internet is not real. What happens on Facebook or Twitter is just illusion. Taking it hard and killing yourself over a facebook post, like we see so many teenagers do these days is ever so sad. They get confused over what reality is. Now if some people you are fast friends with in the Real World (tm) - that, I'd rate as very severe and upsetting. Part of grown-up use of internet forums safely is to not put anything out there that can seriously hurt in real life, and not to get upset when someone takes exception at whatever you say. For everything there is some nutjob with an opposing opinion who is prepared to go ballistic at you. Shrug it off. Tell them to be careful the door doesn't hit them in the back of the head on the way out (old usenet meme). On the other hand, I myself have no fear of putting myself out there. You see my real name, my photo all over the place. I can shrug off the dogs, and I want to have conversations with the real people, so where I consider it safe, I am the real me. I have, by the bye, never seen you in the slightest offensive, ornery, curmodgeonly or abrasive in this forum. You're doing just fine, i.m.o. -P.
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