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Post by elkclan2 on Nov 21, 2017 2:29:54 GMT -5
My partner and I have both had stonking colds this past week. He succumbed first and I took care of him. Yesterday I was pretty much bed bound and he came over after work, fed my son, did geeky things with him, cleaned my kitchen, took care of me and then we all got in bed and watched tv. Despite being sick, we've continued to have sex. None of these things would have happened in my previous relationship, even though my husband was my son's father.
I know it's kinda normal stuff, but it's such a world away from my previous relationship. And my partner's take away from taking over all my domestic responsibilities - he was excited that he had such a good evening with just my son while I was in bed and how accepted he felt.
One of the biggest changes is how my son treats me. Just seeing someone else treat me well has made him treat me better. He was never a bad kid, but obviously I was treated with disregard by his father, so he would sometimes do the same. My son seems more relaxed. Poor kid, he's had some bad knocks - his parents' shitty marriage, separation, me suffering from basically PTSD from relationship trauma. Then a step parent and two step brothers. And no matter how nice my partner is to him (and he is) or how well all the boys get along (they do) it's still a massive, massive change that he didn't ask for.
Opposite land isn't just about having more sex - though I am, I definitely am - opposite land is about being treated with kindness and support and not feeling like my kindness and support is wasted. And it spills over everywhere.
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Post by h on Nov 21, 2017 11:22:24 GMT -5
Sex continues even while sick? That blows my mind. Whenever either one of us is sick, we don't even sleep in the same room.
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 21, 2017 12:27:03 GMT -5
Sex continues even while sick? That blows my mind. Whenever either one of us is sick, we don't even sleep in the same room. My X choose not to sleep in the same room with me when we were at the peak of health....... |
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Post by WindSister on Nov 21, 2017 12:42:18 GMT -5
Love everything about your post (although, not the fact you were sick, sorry, get better!) but I especially love the above ^^^^^! Because, Yes!
So glad to hear such things from others. It's amazing to us when we were so used to the opposite. I know for a fact I will never take such kindness/support/sex for granted. Not possible.
Rest up! Get better! Enjoy life!
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Post by baza on Nov 21, 2017 17:16:38 GMT -5
I like your description of Opposite-Land Sister elkclan2 . Opposite-Land is not all fluffy kittens etc but rather contains the usual day to day issues for us to deal with. But in Opposite-Land, "simple" things are simple rather than angst ridden bullshit and walking on eggshells. And it sure is good. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 21, 2017 20:13:26 GMT -5
This is hope, ElkClan. Thank you. I sometimes worry about my young son one day becoming indifferent to me like his father is. I think it would do my kids a world of good to see someone treating me like gold.
I’m happy things are going well for you on the other side.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 22, 2017 9:14:30 GMT -5
My partner and I have both had stonking colds this past week. He succumbed first and I took care of him. Yesterday I was pretty much bed bound and he came over after work, fed my son, did geeky things with him, cleaned my kitchen, took care of me and then we all got in bed and watched tv. Despite being sick, we've continued to have sex. None of these things would have happened in my previous relationship, even though my husband was my son's father. I know it's kinda normal stuff, but it's such a world away from my previous relationship. And my partner's take away from taking over all my domestic responsibilities - he was excited that he had such a good evening with just my son while I was in bed and how accepted he felt. One of the biggest changes is how my son treats me. Just seeing someone else treat me well has made him treat me better. He was never a bad kid, but obviously I was treated with disregard by his father, so he would sometimes do the same. My son seems more relaxed. Poor kid, he's had some bad knocks - his parents' shitty marriage, separation, me suffering from basically PTSD from relationship trauma. Then a step parent and two step brothers. And no matter how nice my partner is to him (and he is) or how well all the boys get along (they do) it's still a massive, massive change that he didn't ask for. Opposite land isn't just about having more sex - though I am, I definitely am - opposite land is about being treated with kindness and support and not feeling like my kindness and support is wasted. And it spills over everywhere. I'm not sure about this. Sex while you're SICK? What about the germs and viruses? How can you have sex when your sick? Or have a headache? Or have work tomorrow? Or if your kids are home? I'm not buying any of this. |
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Post by elkclan2 on Nov 22, 2017 12:11:18 GMT -5
Yes - sex even while sick! It makes me feel better. The feeling better doesn't LAST very long with a cold, so you just have to do it more often. :-)
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Post by maninfull on Nov 22, 2017 12:21:47 GMT -5
"Opposite Land" ... what should be considered "normal". There's no clearer evidence of how screwed up a SM can make you...
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Post by Deleted on Nov 22, 2017 13:35:45 GMT -5
Yes - sex even while sick! It makes me feel better. The feeling better doesn't LAST very long with a cold, so you just have to do it more often. :-) More often than never? I'm confused. BTW: Are you the ElkClan from EP? |
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Post by elkclan2 on Nov 23, 2017 5:19:18 GMT -5
Yes - sex even while sick! It makes me feel better. The feeling better doesn't LAST very long with a cold, so you just have to do it more often. :-) More often than never? I'm confused. BTW: Are you the ElkClan from EP? Ha ha! And yes! That's me. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 23, 2017 6:50:50 GMT -5
More often than never? I'm confused. BTW: Are you the ElkClan from EP? Ha ha! And yes! That's me. So, the "2" affixed to the moniker Elkclan2 is intended to indicate a new version? Like ElkClan Professional Version 2.0. That's really neat. I figured that username was too unique for someone else to have just stumbled on it. |
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Post by shamwow on Nov 23, 2017 7:28:57 GMT -5
Ha ha! And yes! That's me. So, the "2" affixed to the moniker Elkclan2 is intended to indicate a new version? Like ElkClan Professional Version 2.0. That's really neat. I figured that username was too unique for someone else to have just stumbled on it. Well 'ol Shammy here is on version 3. First one was pre-sm. Version 2 is during SM. Version 3 is... Wait for it... Post SM. Version 3 brings the best of version 1 and 2 and hopefully gets rid of some of the bugs in the system. |
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Post by elkclan2 on Nov 23, 2017 10:07:17 GMT -5
Ha ha! And yes! That's me. So, the "2" affixed to the moniker Elkclan2 is intended to indicate a new version? Like ElkClan Professional Version 2.0. That's really neat. I figured that username was too unique for someone else to have just stumbled on it. ....errr no - I originally signed up here as Elkclan, but forgot what email and password I used. Unintentional, but happy coincidence!!! And year, elkclan is pretty original, but it was a family name from the 'old country' translated into English. |
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