Another "Dear Prudie" Post

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Another "Dear Prudie" Post Nov 12, 2017 18:46:10 GMT -5 GeekGoddess likes this

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Post by choosinghappy on Nov 12, 2017 18:46:10 GMT -5

Dear Prudence: My wife says she loves me, why won't she have sex with me?

This link came up on my Facebook newsfeed and reading the top comments were really depressing, just reinforcing that most people have NO IDEA what being in a sexless (much less touch-starved) marriage is truly like.

Here are the top (most liked) comments: (SIGH)

"Wow, this advice was terrible. Her wife isn't a bad person, and she's not ruining the marriage. She's experiencing a normal ebb and flow within her own sexuality. In all of our lives we will have times when we're up for it, and when we're not. It's part of our partnership with our spouses to be there through all of that..."

"The first letter from the guy who isn't getting enough affection and sex is ridiculous. I was taken aback by Prudence's response. I cannot honestly believe that she was advocating for him to leave her because of this. That's ridiculous...."

"Fuck you Prudence. Fuck you fuck you fuck you fuck you fuck you. 👎👎👎👎👎👎🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕

Sex and touch are not the ultimate barometer of love.

FUCK YOU.

Expecting your partner to fulfill some kind of sex quota for you to feel good about yourself is ALL KIND OF FUCKING WRONG.

FUCK YOU."

WOW.

"Let your faith be bigger than your fear."

greatcoastal Senior Members Thanks for the Birthday wishes! Dinner with a friend tonight and B.D dance with the ladies! Posts: 6,727 Age Range: 56-60	Another "Dear Prudie" Post Nov 12, 2017 19:02:02 GMT -5 northstarmom and choosinghappy like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by greatcoastal on Nov 12, 2017 19:02:02 GMT -5 Reads like a "refuser" would respond. That is if they would ever be honest and even give a response without pulling a DARVO.
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baza Senior Members Tread your own path Posts: 5,556	Another "Dear Prudie" Post Nov 12, 2017 22:56:12 GMT -5 GeekGoddess and workingonit like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by baza on Nov 12, 2017 22:56:12 GMT -5 By the same token, if you are in an ILIASM shithole, you have no idea what it is like in a "normal" marriage. Ignorance abounds about the position you are not in.

GeekGoddess Senior Members The secret to being happy is having a great sense of humor and a dirty mind. I'm qualified! Posts: 1,528 Age Range: 51-55	Another "Dear Prudie" Post Nov 12, 2017 23:34:00 GMT -5 via Tapatalk northstarmom and choosinghappy like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by GeekGoddess on Nov 12, 2017 23:34:00 GMT -5 I appreciated Prudence’s reply!

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Another "Dear Prudie" Post

Post by choosinghappy on Nov 12, 2017 18:46:10 GMT -5

Post by greatcoastal on Nov 12, 2017 19:02:02 GMT -5

Post by baza on Nov 12, 2017 22:56:12 GMT -5

Post by GeekGoddess on Nov 12, 2017 23:34:00 GMT -5

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