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Post by McRoomMate on Sept 6, 2017 19:41:12 GMT -5
Comic relief of sorts or pretty good advice or both?
Warning: Foul Language.
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Post by ironhamster on Sept 21, 2017 12:58:27 GMT -5
I would have taken that advice years ago and ended up better off than today.
I do not want to take his advice, now, though. I figured out how to get my W to put out by creating stress in the relationship. She showed me the way when she saw a Christmas card from a dear female friend of mine and concluded I was having an affair, and suddenly she was putting out, again.
It's not just about the sex. It's about the connection. Sex under duress is not what I want.
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Post by lwoetin on Sept 21, 2017 15:34:00 GMT -5
Comic relief of sorts or pretty good advice or both? Warning: Foul Language. I think it will definitely end a SM instead of fix it. That was funny, my headache feels better. Now I can go back to work....
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Post by baza on Sept 21, 2017 22:36:42 GMT -5
It took him 10 minutes and 49 seconds, but he got the key element right.
You have to be prepared to put the relationship on the line, you have to be prepared to walk if that's how the cards fall.
That's the bottom line, and there's no way round that, or under it, or over it.
And, if you aren't prepared to do that, then you've already lost.
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Post by pheonix25 on Oct 1, 2017 15:54:00 GMT -5
I would have taken that advice years ago and ended up better off than today. I do not want to take his advice, now, though. I figured out how to get my W to put out by creating stress in the relationship. She showed me the way when she saw a Christmas card from a dear female friend of mine and concluded I was having an affair, and suddenly she was putting out, again. It's not just about the sex. It's about the connection. Sex under duress is not what I want. Maybe thats what i need to try because at this point i have to basically beg and like you said who the f wants sex like that!
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Post by petrushka on Oct 3, 2017 3:25:12 GMT -5
I would have taken that advice years ago and ended up better off than today. I do not want to take his advice, now, though. I figured out how to get my W to put out by creating stress in the relationship. She showed me the way when she saw a Christmas card from a dear female friend of mine and concluded I was having an affair, and suddenly she was putting out, again. It's not just about the sex. It's about the connection. Sex under duress is not what I want. So she's back to "marketing", eh? I'm like you, I don't want sex under duress. Hell, I don't want sex as a chore, as a duty or even just to hang on to me as a 'breadwinner' ... I want it for the intimate connection and that's not likely to be forthcoming under any of the circumstances I listed. It needs to be voluntary and enthusiastic. It needs to be enjoyable for both parts. So I'm waiting to see if I can find someone who wants to connect intimately. 15 years so far, and no such luck Actually, I did "take that advice". 8 years ago: I told herself that I wasn't getting anything out of the relationship but abuse, sadness and despair and I was not on board with going on this way. Wake up call. No more emotional abuse, and she gives affection to the best of her ability. Sadly, nowhere near enough to make me happy. And, of course, no sex. Pretty sure I could get 'duty sex' if I put the pressure on, but as I said, not my game. Internet porn is better than that. Sometimes life sucks.
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Post by ironhamster on Oct 3, 2017 6:23:23 GMT -5
...It's not just about the sex. It's about the connection. Sex under duress is not what I want. So she's back to "marketing", eh?... So I'm waiting to see if I can find someone who wants to connect intimately. 15 years so far, and no such luck ... "Marketing" is a good description of it. They are out there. Just the hunt alone is enough to keep me going. My advice is don't wait. The internet is filled with opportunities. So is every social event you can go to. Go, and talk to the women you come across.
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