"Romantic Love" - Dr. Fischer most powerful Human Drive

This test reminds me of the spiritual gifts test I took 30 yrs. ago. My score was Service and Mercy. What annoyed me then was the fact that most of the women I knew got the same thing. I said to a friend of mine," I scored the same as the women!" He showed me the list of all the things you could use your gifts for in the church. The list for Service and Mercy was far longer than his gifts, Leadership and teaching. By the way he went on to be a pastor! That pleased me for a while.

Now it seems to be the same. 9.7% of females are directors, (compared to 24.8% of males). Meanwhile 20.4% of men are negotiators ( compared to 30.8% of women). Tests like these remind me that leadership abilities was squashed in my upbringing by a Bi-Polar mother with a Narc. mentality. Top that of with a high metabolism, skinny body, being a 12yr old boy from Northern Jersey moved into the heart of tobacco country in N.C. That makes you the last to be picked for football, basketball, baseball, etc... Then I married a Manipulative controller.

I don't want pity. I am saying that it's who I am. I get it, I understand it, I embrace it. I want to work with it! In fact you would think It would be easier for women to identify with me, get along with me, and want me. Yet I continue to hear how women love a man to lead!

One big problem with that ,is my own W used to say that. Then reality would bonk that in the head like a 2x4! The most trivial "leadership" got run over like a tank and squashed. Hard to then make any big decisions. Yet here I am getting divorced and striking out on my own. (start the Star Trek opening monologue!)