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Post by Deleted on Aug 25, 2017 16:34:44 GMT -5
Hello all, first post kinda lurked this site for some time, thought I'd tell you my story, and see what you all make of it. Well I'm 31 married for 10 years 3 kids, I am in excellent physical shape and a very dashing young man. My sex life is kinda non existent, maybe 7 times in the last 3 years, and I'm kinda bummed out about it. About 9 months ago I kinda gave up, and the only thing that is different is I don't have to deal with the rejection, but I'm still lonely and exhausted. I have done everything I can but have the talk with divorce papers in hand. In her defensive she does have mental health issues, nothing crazy, but the thing is she refused to take her meds, which makes her a really mean person also refused to go to the doctor for med changes or hormone tests. I feel like I'm the bane of her existence, if something went wrong, it's my fault, regardless of the situation, our talks turn into what I'm doing wrong, I hardly ever get two words in so I basically go through the motions. We haven't slept in the same bed in 6 years, and when she did agree to sex it was hurry up or make it quick. She is a stay at home mom, we do have a small child, but I hardly think that's the reason because it was happening before, yes the youngest sleeps through the night, and takes naps. But I'm tired, headache not feeling well so on so forth. The first two years were Bliss, even with our first child, 5-7 times a week she would have multiple orgasms so on so forth, but as time went on she became less frequent until we are here now. I hate talking to her about this kinda thing she turns me into some sort of pervert, all you want is sex. No I want to be loved, desired, appreciated, along with the sex. But I get belittled and aggressively berated, and funny thing is I have never raised my voice towards her, but she'll scream at me throw things, its hard to put on my happy face for the kids. Sorry for the long post. Welcome my friend. Unfortunately, your wife is nothing but a mean horrible person who knows she could act better if she would just take her meds. If she wanted a peaceful home, she would take them and try to be a decent spouse. What I see is a man who is doing everything he can to be superhusband, and a spoiled entitled brat just enjoying your efforts. She will continue to do this until you stop letting her. I am you 20 years in the future. At 32, I had two kids and an insane wife who would constantly berate me and tell me everything I was doing wrong while I was working full time, doing over half the housework, and taking care of the kids as soon as I finished work. I did not want to leave and disrupt my kids' lives. So I waited until I was 51. My youngest had just graduated from HS, and we had relocated and did not own a house. When my youngest went off to college, I hoped that my W's behavior would improve so we could have a decent marriage. It did not. Without my daughter there, her abuse increased exponentially. We had not had sex at all in almost 6 years. The day after my birthday, she told me that I should be happy and fulfilled in a marriage that NEVER included sex. I moved out a few weeks after that. It was the hardest thing i have ever done, but also the best thing I have ever done. However, I wish I had left when I was your age. My kids, while young, would have adjusted well at that time, and I would still have had some of my youth left. Please don't wait. She is NOT going to improve. I wish there had been an older man who had been there who told me then what I am telling you now. |
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