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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Aug 8, 2017 15:51:32 GMT -5
Let me throw this out there. How about a tangential but related question. What if partner was less than ideal but the chemistry between the sheets is through the roof. Would you stay until you couldnt stand it. Would you break it off as soon as you knew. Would you stay and compromise on the other qualities?
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Post by northstarmom on Aug 8, 2017 16:38:18 GMT -5
There is no perfect partner. If "less than ideal" meant he was a little shorter, fatter or less educated or stylish than I prefer, I'd love him as he was. If "less than ideal" meant he was my opposite on the political spectrum or he was addicted, racist, misogynistic, etc. I'd probably never have bothered to test the chemistry. A major flaw in his character would drive me away.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2017 17:02:42 GMT -5
Let me throw this out there. How about a tangential but related question. What if partner was less than ideal but the chemistry between the sheets is through the roof. Would you stay until you couldnt stand it. Would you break it off as soon as you knew. Would you stay and compromise on the other qualities? Oh, the irony! This has forced me to admit openly that sex doesn't always win. It would depend on the degree of "less than ideal". If that meant she liked American Cheese a little too much or was into Star Trek cosplay sheet-chemistry would win (ok, that second one is more of a fantasy than a problem). |
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Post by h on Aug 10, 2017 17:11:03 GMT -5
If you have the right partner, the format becomes irrelevant. The right partner will want the same format as you.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2017 23:51:53 GMT -5
I'm voting for the relationship as well. And I actually believe that's why I stay in my SM. I so badly want my family, my marriage, that I am willing (have been willing) to sacrifice a lot for it.
There was a time when I thought my H was both things you've listed: the right partner offering the right relationship. Now it seems, he's no longer the right partner but he still offers the right relationship. I think this is the entire conundrum in a nutshell.
I'm in my mid-40s and I've never felt better, so it's very hard for me to believe and accept that I have to give up sex in order to keep my family intact. Alas, that does appear to be the choice before me.
Sex? Or my intact family? I get one or the other. Not both.
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Post by lwoetin on Aug 11, 2017 1:46:02 GMT -5
I'm with my preferred partner but not in a preferred relationship, a sexual one. So I choose to stay with my partner.
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Post by ironhamster on Aug 11, 2017 5:42:55 GMT -5
I'm voting for the relationship as well. And I actually believe that's why I stay in my SM. I so badly want my family, my marriage, that I am willing (have been willing) to sacrifice a lot for it. There was a time when I thought my H was both things you've listed: the right partner offering the right relationship. Now it seems, he's no longer the right partner but he still offers the right relationship. I think this is the entire conundrum in a nutshell. I'm in my mid-40s and I've never felt better, so it's very hard for me to believe and accept that I have to give up sex in order to keep my family intact. Alas, that does appear to be the choice before me. Sex? Or my intact family? I get one or the other. Not both. For me, keeping the family intact is where the partner is more important than the relationship format. I do intend to keep the family intact, for a while, but do intend to have an AP. I'm sure that sounds greedy. I want it all. |
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