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Post by shamwow on Aug 7, 2017 14:19:20 GMT -5
With us it was two things: the birth of our second child placed all the usual pressures on us, to which we responded badly - that was our fault jointly. The second - which isn't mine at all - is that my wife went kind of crazy when she turned forty and effectively did a Shamwow's ex's honeymoon job and stopped all activity. The latest drought is now five full years. Just to clarify, when we got back from the honeymoon, all activity did not stop. It simply went straight into the official definition of a sexless marriage (10 or fewer times per year...often many fewer). In contrast, prior to "I do", there was a day a few months previous that we had sex 24 times in 24 hours. What I didn't realize at the time was that when I was getting married was that I was getting the last 7 or 8 years of sex in one day. It is only in the last three years it went completely sexless, with a few other year-long gaps between a single episode before that. But "all activity" did not stop. Enough bait was provided to keep the fish biting at the hook. At least until I tore my mouth free. |
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Post by orangepeel on Aug 8, 2017 1:37:31 GMT -5
'What I didn't realize at the time was that when I was getting married was that I was getting the last 7 or 8 years of sex in one day.'
Great line.
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Post by tori on Aug 8, 2017 19:47:30 GMT -5
I had no sharp turn. It's been the same the whole time. I will acknowledge that we've had more sex this year alone than in any other two years combined but it hasn't been great sex. Before I started posting on here, it was an average of 10 times a year all the way back to the first year of our marriage. I don't know if that makes me lucky or deprived. I never really knew what a great sex life was like. I still don't... I'd say lucky that's five more times than I've had in 2016 |
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Post by tori on Aug 8, 2017 19:48:38 GMT -5
'What I didn't realize at the time was that when I was getting married was that I was getting the last 7 or 8 years of sex in one day.' Great line. LOL |
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Post by McRoomMate on Aug 8, 2017 21:24:22 GMT -5
There's *staying* for the kids, There's *leaving* for the kids. There is also staying for *your* need to be near the kids too. They are all perfectly legitimate choices, just different motivations. One more . .. there is leaving for "NEW KIDS" One can have more kids - it is not forbidden to have more children with a new soul mate. A legitimate choice for future yet born children. |
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Post by brian on Aug 9, 2017 8:36:27 GMT -5
There's *staying* for the kids, There's *leaving* for the kids. There is also staying for *your* need to be near the kids too. They are all perfectly legitimate choices, just different motivations. One more . .. there is leaving for "NEW KIDS" One can have more kids - it is not forbidden to have more children with a new soul mate. A legitimate choice for future yet born children. True statement, however, many of us here currently have the mindset of wanting to make sure options are open. I would gather that many feel trapped (financially, emotionally, whatever) in their current situation because of kids and would likely avoid having more. Still, it's a valid option. |
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Post by McRoomMate on Aug 9, 2017 8:57:57 GMT -5
One more . .. there is leaving for "NEW KIDS" One can have more kids - it is not forbidden to have more children with a new soul mate. A legitimate choice for future yet born children. True statement, however, many of us here currently have the mindset of wanting to make sure options are open. I would gather that many feel trapped (financially, emotionally, whatever) in their current situation because of kids and would likely avoid having more. Still, it's a valid option. Maybe it is my dominant "cave man" genes (I have a sloping brow and long arms for my body ratio). I always suspected I was born a few thousand years too late. LOL Be fruitful and multiply. |
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