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Post by helpless on Aug 5, 2017 5:54:43 GMT -5
This is my first time on one of these sites. I really want to get someone else point of view on my situation.
So i met a guy online a few years ago. It was a really low point in my life. So i said fuck it ill meet him and if anything goes wrong oh well.
He was into certain fetishes. Well he thought when we tried them in real life he didn't like it. We never really had sex though and i was and still is a virgin.
I'm in a completely sexless marriage. Before it didn't bother me but now it does and hes not interested in sex. I've caught him multiple times talking to girls online and asking for fetish favors. He even spent almost 500$ on a night chat site. He says he only likes the thought of girls doing things to him but he doesn't actually get off on it. So he only reads stories and even pays for girls to make him stories of doing certain acts like ball busting and face sitting. I feel so sad a frustrated i don't even know what sex feels like.
Its like things are just getting worse and i cant stop thinking about the 500 he spent all in one month for those stupid stories. Is it time to say goodbye?
I'm sorry my story is so jumbled together, hopefully it still makes sense.
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Post by GeekGoddess on Aug 5, 2017 7:32:03 GMT -5
I know far too little background from to have much input to offer.
I'm out of a sexless marriage. From the little in this post, the only thing I can offer is: RUN.
See a lawyer. Get the hell out of there. You are NOT in a healthy relationship.
Disclaimer is that this based solely on the above info & there are many factors that affect the actual IRL decisions.
But it's a great idea to visit a lawyer for a free consult & see what a split would or could like for you. From that factual knowledge, you can move to a decision based on what you learn about the legal side.
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Post by baza on Aug 5, 2017 7:58:16 GMT -5
This appears to be your one and only post Sister helpless . 9 lines. Lots of blanks to guess at. I am guessing that there are no kids involved in this situation. Based on what you written, and only on what you have written, my suggestion would be to run. |
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Post by shamwow on Aug 5, 2017 9:25:41 GMT -5
When you say you were and still are a virgin, could this marriage simply be annulled?
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Post by shamwow on Aug 5, 2017 9:29:56 GMT -5
You might want to remind him that the "girls" on the chat site are not always what they appear. I may need to raise my prices since I only charge $300 per month  |
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Post by bballgirl on Aug 5, 2017 9:38:32 GMT -5
Honey it is time to say goodbye and good riddens.
Holy shit! Get it annulled don't waste any more years on a man that doesn't like sex.
Have some fun on some dating apps, lose your virginity, explore your own sexuality and figure out what you want for yourself.
Regardless of the fact that there isn't much info here I'd say you guys aren't a match and have no business being in a marriage.
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Post by hopingforachange on Aug 5, 2017 10:58:28 GMT -5
Run run run as far away from his shit as you can.
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Post by misssunnybunny on Aug 5, 2017 11:41:32 GMT -5
Based on what you wrote, I agree with everyone else that you need to get out of this "marriage." Talk to a lawyer about your options; if you have never had sex, you may be able to get an annulment. Get out, find someone who want to be with you, not pretend sexual adventures online. Life is too short to be unhappy.
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Post by northstarmom on Aug 5, 2017 11:43:33 GMT -5
What are the reasons to have hung onto the merits? What is good about it? Why have you stayed? If you have stayed only due to the hope that things would get better, you have been wasting your time .
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Post by DryCreek on Aug 5, 2017 14:41:19 GMT -5
helpless, not a lot of details, so I'll lead withsome questions for you to consider... Why did you marry him in the first place? Why have you chosen to stay so long under the circumstances? I.e., how did you come to find yourself in this place? Whether now or later, these will be important questions to answer, or you'll be doomed to repeat history. What kind of life / relationship do you hope for yourself in 10 or 20 years? Do you picture this guy sharing that vision and helping you achieve it? Is he someone you'd want to share that dream with? It doesn't sound like it. And I t sounds like he'd be actively defeating your goals. What little you describe sounds very dysfunctional. Most of us here (especially with hindsight) would never enter a dysfunctional relationship with hopes of fixing it. That's a fool's errand and a waste of your life. If you need to leave, make a list and work the list. Top of that list should be getting legal advice. In a lot of jurisdictions, attorneys will do an initial consultation for free - see 3 of them.
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