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Post by Chatter Fox on Jul 30, 2017 19:14:18 GMT -5
It's strange. What wizardry is this? I look back at things that went on 3 months ago and it feels like it's been a year since those events have happened. Things that happened a year ago feel like a whole different lifetime ago. Anyone else feel this way. The last 2 years have felt like 10. It's like, ever since I got on the fence of "stay vs leave" time has slowed down.
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Post by laura on Jul 30, 2017 19:43:29 GMT -5
For me time has sped up. "Wait, has it been a year?! I was going to have made a decision by now."
Speeding up sounds like living in the current reality. It sounds like progress. Does it feel that way?
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Post by DryCreek on Jul 30, 2017 20:30:12 GMT -5
Like laura, quite the opposite for me. Time is passing way, way too fast for me, and I aspire to accomplish so much more than I am. |
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Post by Chatter Fox on Jul 30, 2017 21:02:40 GMT -5
Interesting... drycreek and Laura, you guys are experiencing the opposite effect. It sounds like progress. Does it feel that way? To answer your question, Laura, it feels like growth more so than progress. ...if that makes sense. It's kind of like how things were in grade school. You know how life was entirely different between grade 7 and 8? ...like that. (Assuming you can relate to my feeling of drastic difference between grades 7 and 8. Lol) |
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Jul 30, 2017 21:26:12 GMT -5
For me, it is a mix of both.
While I feel like my dates for this and that are approaching far too fast and I am behind on my difficult conversations I also feel like time is incredibly slow, why can't I just have my damn degree already, or my daughter be older already?!
So even though I am freaking out that July is over and I haven't done anything productive with the time, I am still thinking "sweet Jesus school starts soon, hallelujah"
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Post by Deleted on Jul 30, 2017 22:16:45 GMT -5
Like laura, quite the opposite for me. Time is passing way, way too fast for me, and I aspire to accomplish so much more than I am. This. Time moves more quickly than I can keep up with. There are rarely enough hours in the day. Part of that is because this is a very busy period in my life. And part of it is because I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. I'm 3/4 of the way through my 4 year exit plan. Only 1 year to go. When I first started, I never imagined I'd get this far, but now, I'm almost through! This next year, through July 2018, is going to move at light speed. I'm looking forward to it! |
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Post by baza on Jul 30, 2017 23:03:39 GMT -5
Time is a very fluid commodity.
It is your worst enemy when you are embroiled in an ILIASM shithole, as every day that passes further entrenches the dysfunctionality.
OTOH, time is your best friend once you get out of that dysfunctional environment. Every day that passes detox's you further, clarifies your thinking and propels you forward into the next stage of your journey.
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Jul 31, 2017 0:26:19 GMT -5
Thats one heck of a wormhole Baza Time is a very fluid commodity. It is your worst enemy when you are embroiled in an ILIASM shithole, as every day that passes further entrenches the dysfunctionality. OTOH, time is your best friend once you get out of that dysfunctional environment. Every day that passes detox's you further, clarifies your thinking and propels you forward into the next stage of your journey. |
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Post by johannesfactotum on Jul 31, 2017 1:04:41 GMT -5
Stay in a sexless marriage long enough and the days and weeks and months and years will fly past you. You wake up one morning two decades later wondering where the hell the time went and why you stayed in the farce of a marriage for so long.
I've decided I'll be leaving in the near future, probably next year. I'm looking into what it takes to file for divorce. I hope time continues to fly.
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Post by h on Jul 31, 2017 5:11:30 GMT -5
Just passed my 9 year anniversary last week. Looking back, time flew by while I was in the fog. I don't know where the years have gone and I feel like life passed me by while I had my head stuck in the sand. Since I found this place and was "snapped out of it" time is dragging on. I am aware of every day that passes. I feel each hour tick by as if I were watching a clock. I am acutely aware that my time on this Earth is slipping away and now I have the drive to make the most of it.
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Post by eternaloptimism on Jul 31, 2017 12:25:02 GMT -5
I was listening to a podcast about NLP (neuro linguistic programming anyone?) that involved a really interesting discussion about our time perception.
They were saying essentially that if you are living on autopilot I.e. doing the same mindless shit day after day after day for years (like my am) the brain doesn't really have to work to process new situations. Therefore it compartmentalises all its memories into 1 memory block ...if you like. Hence why when i think back on 18 years gone by with the dud it's like woah, that was no time at all. What the hell just happened. I only met him the other day! 18 twatting years of sweet precious life....Gone. Even though we know 18 years is a decent chunk of time!
And on the flip side, if you are busy having your proper life and ticking off your bucket list and having loads of new experiences, the brain needs to process so much new shit that it takes up loads of new "memory blocks" which, when recalled later, it's like woahhhh how the hell did I fit allllllllll that into a year, and makes that year feel immense and long.
I'm quite interested in that concept.
It's almost the opposite of time flying when you're having fun. Sorta.
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Post by DryCreek on Jul 31, 2017 12:44:35 GMT -5
Oooooh, I like this concept, eternaloptimism. So, living a full life slows time and makes it last even longer - now, that's appealing! |
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Post by shamwow on Jul 31, 2017 13:44:07 GMT -5
It's strange. What wizardry is this? I look back at things that went on 3 months ago and it feels like it's been a year since those events have happened. Things that happened a year ago feel like a whole different lifetime ago. Anyone else feel this way. The last 2 years have felt like 10. It's like, ever since I got on the fence of "stay vs leave" time has slowed down. If you want to speed things up, decide to leave. Holy mother of God, everything comes at fast and furious and doesn't let up until the end. And now that I've been out for a few weeks, I was actually bored for the first time in years this weekend...It was exquisite. |
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Post by shamwow on Jul 31, 2017 13:51:48 GMT -5
I was listening to a podcast about NLP (neuro linguistic programming anyone?) that involved a really interesting discussion about our time perception. They were saying essentially that if you are living on autopilot I.e. doing the same mindless shit day after day after day for years (like my am) the brain doesn't really have to work to process new situations. Therefore it compartmentalises all its memories into 1 memory block ...if you like. Hence why when i think back on 18 years gone by with the dud it's like woah, that was no time at all. What the hell just happened. I only met him the other day! 18 twatting years of sweet precious life....Gone. Even though we know 18 years is a decent chunk of time! And on the flip side, if you are busy having your proper life and ticking off your bucket list and having loads of new experiences, the brain needs to process so much new shit that it takes up loads of new "memory blocks" which, when recalled later, it's like woahhhh how the hell did I fit allllllllll that into a year, and makes that year feel immense and long. I'm quite interested in that concept. It's almost the opposite of time flying when you're having fun. Sorta. A few years back, I had a business trip to NYC. I landed on Saturday around noon, and between then and Sunday evening I did the following: - Empire state building - Central park - Chinatown - Ellis Island - Visited the Statue of Liberty - Broadway show (spamalot) - Times Square - Little Italy - Rockefeller Center - Started to walk the Brooklyn Bridge, but there was a noreaster coming in and I backed off - Greenich Village (needed to buy a new pipe) - Wall Street - The Met (spent several hours there alone) - Central park zoo - And I'm sure I'm missing a few things. When I got back on the plane after my Monday meeting, my head was swimming. I couldn't believe that I had done so much in such a short period of time. Now that I'm out of my SM, I plan on living the rest of my life the same way I lived that weekend. I owe it to myself. |
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Post by eternaloptimism on Aug 1, 2017 12:40:58 GMT -5
Oooooh, I like this concept, eternaloptimism . So, living a full life slows time and makes it last even longer - now, that's appealing! I know... it's cool isn't it. I really balk at the thought of going to my grave without making new exciting memories. Bring the new life on!!!! |
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