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Post by shamwow on Jul 24, 2017 15:40:06 GMT -5
So I've been officially divorced for almost a week now. My wife is a Facebook freak, and I was surprised she hasn't changed her relationship status.
I really don't give a flying fuck about Facebook, but I was curious to see how other's ex's handled that particular "event"
I haven't modified mine, but I'm characteristically not on it, and figured I'd wait until she did it first. It is inconceivable she hasn't thought about it.
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Post by northstarmom on Jul 24, 2017 15:59:31 GMT -5
I saw no reason to wait on him except that when we decided to divorce, I made sure our adult kids knew before I changed my status to separated. When the divorce became final, I immediately changed my status to reflect that.
I had learned to no longer feel responsible for his life.
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 24, 2017 16:19:10 GMT -5
I just removed the married and a relationship status doesn't show on my profile. My ex doesn't have FB.
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Post by nancyb on Jul 24, 2017 17:20:06 GMT -5
My ex and I were never FB friends and we have different surnames so it didn't matter what he did. I changed my status to separated as soon as my family knew.
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Post by misssunnybunny on Jul 24, 2017 17:27:59 GMT -5
I changed my relationship status after the divorce. I also deleted the ex as a friend; didn't want to see his life, didn't want him seeing mine. He tried re-adding me, but I declined it. We have shared friends, so once in a while I see something, but I scroll past it. Don't really care...
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Post by cagedtiger on Jul 24, 2017 19:32:16 GMT -5
I've hidden the relationship status on my profile, but I'm not sure what shows on hers or not. I know she's not changed it from married, but then again, seeing as we still have six more months (at least) in separation purgatory, she's not the type who would change her status until forced to. Gotta keep up appearances and such, after all.
I'll change it when everything is settled and done, and maybe then she'll get the point that I'm really serious about it. Don't see any need to change it before.
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Post by DryCreek on Jul 24, 2017 19:38:22 GMT -5
shamwow, I know jack about FB, but isn't there a feature to freeze someone's view? Maybe that's why you haven't seen any changes.
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Post by WindSister on Jul 25, 2017 7:18:49 GMT -5
I hid my relationship status online after my divorce until I started dating and my now husband changed his to "in a rekationship."
If you update to single you would get an onslaught of comments from everyone asking for details. Hiding it makes that not happen.
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Post by shamwow on Jul 25, 2017 7:34:25 GMT -5
Wasn't aware I coukd hide it. Honestly I check FB twice a year religiously whether I need to or not...
But I like the idea of hiding the status rather than changing it and reaping the whirlwind.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 25, 2017 7:58:25 GMT -5
Ah yes.... Fakebook!
My stbx's "status" changed in her own manipulative way. She added her middle name. She bumps up her status as "wonder mom" by posting pics and updates of "her glorious children", at there events. Loads of pics of birthday dinners with her daddy and her sons, "such an outgoing woman, always out on the town with these young men".
It's laughable, to see this other woman ( a friend of ours) who is getting divorced do many of the same things. I notice not a single minion will ever ask, "where's your husband?"
I am waiting until the divorce is final. Then I will change my status. I only look at other peoples art work and get news updates on FB.
I want to continue seeing her posts for a while. When it's over (the divorce) I don't think it's going to be over. Some of those posts can be valuable information. Most of them are helpful in proving, I made the right choice.
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Post by WindSister on Jul 25, 2017 10:41:17 GMT -5
One thing about Facebook is they added a feature that helps you separate everything you and she are tagged in once you break up. I think that can be done discreetly. Now, you likely won't want to do that with the mother of your kids, but if you hook with a tag-happy girlfriend sometime and break up, that will be a nice feature. My husband had to manually remove himself from his ex-girlfriend's tagged pictures, check ins, statuses, etc. or it would show up as a "memory" for eternity. He had asked her to do it but she threw a flying fit about it calling him cold for requesting such a thing.
Once a break up occurs, facebook becomes a stupid place, IMO. It's a real "thing" - a real "issue" that didn't exist those wonderful pre-Facebook years. I miss those years and want to get off it, but then when I post a story about motorcycling and get such the massive outpouring of support and responses and networking from my friends on there, I can't do it. It's a love/hate thing - good for some things but other things annoy me. Take the good, leave the bad and realize 98% of what we see on it is BS. I try to keep things real but even so, no one is going to post their shitty stuff on FB - it's a highlight reel, that's all it is meant to be, that's all it will be.
I have genuinely awesome connections on there, practically no extended family (and no exes) because I decided life is short, don't put up with life-suckers. My extended relatives are mostly downers. When I get tips from fellow women bikers, I am glad I posted. When they message me and say, "let's ride," I am even more glad. So, like it or not, FB is here to stay, we just have to learn to work with it.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2017 14:06:17 GMT -5
Mr. Kat and I are still FB friends. In fact, we still talk on FB and tag each other on things we find interesting.
I don't have my relationship status visible. His is still "in a relationship."
Some things will have to change if I ever meet the right guy; but I'll deal with that when it happens.
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