Post by tamara68 on Jul 24, 2017 11:56:10 GMT -5
Strange thing happened after work today.
Disclaimer: I have had a headache all day, so I wasn't thinking as clear and clever as my bright usual self lol. And I couldn't respond quickly.
I always have to travel by train and bus. I had left work a little earlier than usual so I could take my time walking to the station. At the station I still had 15 min. until my train would depart. So I wanted to go in a store at the station for a few min. Suddenly a young (and handsome) African man came up to me and started a conversation. He went almost straight to the point. He thought he recognized me from something. From social media perhaps? (that was not possible, so he continued). He said he wanted to get to know me because I had 'struck his heart'. (He spoke English, didn't ask me if I could speak English first.) I was undoubtedly looking dumbfounded en couldn't immediately know what to say. So he continued his plea. And he also didn't take long to ask me for personal information.
I told him that I found it strange that he said these things. He nearly began to beg me to give him a chance to get to know him. At first I was a bit fascinated, I must admit. But the begging annoyed me immediately. I realized it was a good exercise to say 'no'. Every word he said was manipulating, exactly the same as salesmen. Even marketing tricks, like asking a question that can only be answered with 'yes', a short touch on my arm. I told him that he was pushy and that I wasn't interested. I had to repeat it several times until he went away and I got in my train.
I wondered, was I wearing a sign 'easy target'? He didn't take more than a minute to recognize my useful vulnerability in the crowd. Genuine flirting would be flattering, but this made me feel stupid.
Disclaimer: I have had a headache all day, so I wasn't thinking as clear and clever as my bright usual self lol. And I couldn't respond quickly.
I always have to travel by train and bus. I had left work a little earlier than usual so I could take my time walking to the station. At the station I still had 15 min. until my train would depart. So I wanted to go in a store at the station for a few min. Suddenly a young (and handsome) African man came up to me and started a conversation. He went almost straight to the point. He thought he recognized me from something. From social media perhaps? (that was not possible, so he continued). He said he wanted to get to know me because I had 'struck his heart'. (He spoke English, didn't ask me if I could speak English first.) I was undoubtedly looking dumbfounded en couldn't immediately know what to say. So he continued his plea. And he also didn't take long to ask me for personal information.
I told him that I found it strange that he said these things. He nearly began to beg me to give him a chance to get to know him. At first I was a bit fascinated, I must admit. But the begging annoyed me immediately. I realized it was a good exercise to say 'no'. Every word he said was manipulating, exactly the same as salesmen. Even marketing tricks, like asking a question that can only be answered with 'yes', a short touch on my arm. I told him that he was pushy and that I wasn't interested. I had to repeat it several times until he went away and I got in my train.
I wondered, was I wearing a sign 'easy target'? He didn't take more than a minute to recognize my useful vulnerability in the crowd. Genuine flirting would be flattering, but this made me feel stupid.
Clearly you are NOT stupid - he is - and was shot down accordingly. 
