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Post by WindSister on Jul 24, 2017 20:53:03 GMT -5
Is it safe to say, you now have a better understanding of what kind of body type (man) is going to desire you? Greatcoastal, no one type will desire you. You are not locked into only having the type that reminds you of your stbx. It's clear you want nothing like your ex and I'm gathering that means a woman who is bigger. That's fine. It's allowed. You will find women you are attracted to also attracted back. Sometimes. Sometimes not. I am not a tiny woman. I have weight to lose. Always have. I dated and felt mutual attraction with super buff, healthy fit guys to super big guys and everything inbetween. Attraction is amazing and some claim only fit people get desired sexually but that's a damn lie. You, being skinny, not super buff or tall or whatever will find wonderful women who dig you. In all forms. Believe it! You better share here when it does happen so it helps others. 😊 Maybe you need to practice a daily affirmation. I am a passionate, sexual being. I exude sexual energy and lots of women want what I offer. Now strut.... think John Travolta. |
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Post by WindSister on Jul 24, 2017 20:54:04 GMT -5
Oops. Messed up the bbcode in post above. Sorry!!
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Post by shamwow on Jul 25, 2017 12:54:48 GMT -5
That was a long article, I read and appreciated every word of it. This is the last paragraph: "Men in established relationships and marriage need to remember that women are women first and foremost… and wives and mothers second. If a man stops bringing passion and effort to his relationship and stops treating her as a desired woman, he shouldn't be surprised when she feels forced to fill her needs elsewhere." Essentially I feel like I can agree with a lot of what he found. I would say that a bit of it does not fit me, personally, but that overall I can see why that would be an easy conclusion to come to. I do wish my H would put a little effort into some passion, I know I do... I regularly surprise him and find special events for us to go to that I think he will enjoy (even if it isn't my cup of tea), I give him the compliments that are backed up by me hugging and kissing him randomly, I try and find new ways to make our bedroom more appealing and satisfying... Or even try and seek him out when I cannot stop thinking about tasting him... And yet some days I just kind of feel he is complacent. Things like this make me wish my daughter was older so we could travel wherever and she could adjust better to school and environment changes. Not that our sex life was better when we were traveling, but it was more spontenious... Anyway, I have drawled on... My bad. Tldr; good share, he made some great speculations and even found he was lacking in his own relationship just as we are. Maybe in some cases but ex wanted to be mommy first and wife second. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Aug 1, 2017 7:40:37 GMT -5
I read this exact same article several years ago, written by a woman reporter researching "why men have affairs". Her approach spoke to me much like this guy did when describing himself. Pretty self centered and smug with very little empathy or thought for anyone other than themselves. The 2 writers had a lot in common. The female researcher also baited her game with various hints of what she liked and wanted and met a # of men who specifically were drawn to her stated approach for being on the site. And once she had the material she felt made for interesting or titillating reading she quickly ended things and moved on to the next male. For both these writers I came to conclude it was easy to use and discard other people if it got them the story they wanted. For both of these writers I felt a certain amount of anger and contempt.
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Post by twotimesone on Aug 1, 2017 9:15:40 GMT -5
That was a long article, I read and appreciated every word of it. This is the last paragraph: "Men in established relationships and marriage need to remember that women are women first and foremost… and wives and mothers second. If a man stops bringing passion and effort to his relationship and stops treating her as a desired woman, he shouldn't be surprised when she feels forced to fill her needs elsewhere." Essentially I feel like I can agree with a lot of what he found. I would say that a bit of it does not fit me, personally, but that overall I can see why that would be an easy conclusion to come to. I do wish my H would put a little effort into some passion, I know I do... I regularly surprise him and find special events for us to go to that I think he will enjoy (even if it isn't my cup of tea), I give him the compliments that are backed up by me hugging and kissing him randomly, I try and find new ways to make our bedroom more appealing and satisfying... Or even try and seek him out when I cannot stop thinking about tasting him... And yet some days I just kind of feel he is complacent. Things like this make me wish my daughter was older so we could travel wherever and she could adjust better to school and environment changes. Not that our sex life was better when we were traveling, but it was more spontenious... Anyway, I have drawled on... My bad. Tldr; good share, he made some great speculations and even found he was lacking in his own relationship just as we are. Maybe in some cases but ex wanted to be mommy first and wife second. It reminds me of a wooden sign on in-law's fridge which says "Happy wife, Happy life" and my W would humorously point this out to me. I often wonder this philosophy, and how a woman can attain this "happiness" at the expense of their Husbands? I mean in my SM, I have really no say of some of the major decisions and I have to follow whatever she wants. |
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Post by shamwow on Aug 1, 2017 9:25:29 GMT -5
Maybe in some cases but ex wanted to be mommy first and wife second. It reminds me of a wooden sign on in-law's fridge which says "Happy wife, Happy life" and my W would humorously point this out to me. I often wonder this philosophy, and how a woman can attain this "happiness" at the expense of their Husbands? I mean in my SM, I have really no say of some of the major decisions and I have to follow whatever she wants. I get the idea behind "happy wife happy life" but, like you, it has always rubbed me a little wrong seeing that for the same reasons. Why should it be that making the wife happy is all you need to have a happy life? Sure, it is a cute saying and rhymes. But the idea that you should just do whatever is needed to make your wife happy and you will also be happy? Well, in practice I can say that is a load of horse shit. |
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Post by hopingforachange on Aug 1, 2017 9:47:00 GMT -5
It needs to also have:
Happy Husband
Happy Holy matrimony
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Post by jim44444 on Aug 1, 2017 14:32:09 GMT -5
It needs to also have: Happy Husband Happy Holy matrimony Holy Matrimony, a prime example for an oxymoron. |
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Post by eternaloptimism on Aug 1, 2017 15:01:22 GMT -5
It needs to also have: Happy Husband Happy Holy matrimony Holy Matrimony, a prime example for an oxymoron. It's a great substitute for "holy shit" actually isn't it. Another substitute I use is "holy vagina" When I'm in the right company that is ha ha. But "holy matrimony" will now be my new saying ... in the right company that is! |
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