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miestas
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Random thoughts on Easter Mar 27, 2016 13:22:34 GMT -5 Rhapsodee and tamara68 like this

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Post by miestas on Mar 27, 2016 13:22:34 GMT -5

Hi guys,

Glad I found at least a few of you here. Typical luck for me, I find a place that seems active, with some hope of making a few new friends, and its going to close down in about 2 - 3 weeks. Hope the new place works out.

Anyway, I am feeling absolutely dismal this Easter. My wife had been out of town for a couple of weeks. We had been talking about it being nice to see each other again. She actually talked about having sex, imagine that! So, she's been home a week now and every time I have made overtures, she has either A. Fallen asleep or B. Literally gotten up and left the bed to do something that absolutely cannot wait... Like feed the dog, or start laundry, or etc.

So now I'm done...again. I am such a messed up, codependent, masochistic jerk.

And I'm telling all this to people I've never met, on an internet forum, because I have no RW friends to talk to. How completely pitiful is that?

I think I hate myself pretty sufficiently now.

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Random thoughts on Easter Mar 27, 2016 14:47:44 GMT -5 darktippedrose, tamara68, and 1 more like this

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Post by DryCreek on Mar 27, 2016 14:47:44 GMT -5

Welcome to the club, unfortunately. Glad you found us at the new place.

You tend to paint a pretty grim picture of yourself when email, feeding the animals, going to the store, or browsing the web are clearly more pressing than taking a few minutes with your spouse. It can kill your self-esteem, especially over time.

"I know you're in a hurry, but really... you can't pause even 5 seconds for a decent hug?"

The hardest, but most effective solution is to realize it's not you. They have issues. You're an unfortunate victim of their issues.

Love without limits. Live without regret.

Rhapsodee Senior Members A composition free in structure and emotional in character Posts: 1,021 Age Range: 56-60	Random thoughts on Easter Mar 27, 2016 16:50:25 GMT -5 via Tapatalk tamara68 likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Rhapsodee on Mar 27, 2016 16:50:25 GMT -5 Welcome to the club! It's difficult to have RW friends because there is too much we can't talk about. They sense the hole in the conversation.
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Random thoughts on Easter Mar 27, 2016 18:28:35 GMT -5 Rhapsodee likes this

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Mar 27, 2016 13:22:34 GMT -5 miestas said:

So now I'm done...again. I am such a messed up, codependent, masochistic jerk.

I know you kind of feel that way, but it is completely untrue. You just have an extraordinary level of commitment. I wrote an article about that on my blog, here...

thecelibatehusband.wordpress.com/2016/02/03/for-the-refused/

miestas
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Random thoughts on Easter Mar 28, 2016 0:14:42 GMT -5

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Post by miestas on Mar 28, 2016 0:14:42 GMT -5

Thanks, flashjohn.

I read your entire blog. It is eye opening to say the least. I do have a few questions, though.
1. What did your children think about you moving out and did you tell them why?

2. Did your kds know that y'all were having problems before that? If so, did y'all discuss the reasons for you moving out before you did?

3. Was there a final straw that made you decide to move out?

I keep thinking up reasons for not leaving, and I keep finding people like you who have the same reasons, and yet still had the courage to move out.

4. Did you ever get to the point where you felt completely alone, and that things were as good as they were ever going to get? That it was just all downhill from here?

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Random thoughts on Easter Mar 28, 2016 2:42:23 GMT -5 Dan, Rhapsodee, and 1 more like this

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Post by tamara68 on Mar 28, 2016 2:42:23 GMT -5

Mar 27, 2016 16:50:25 GMT -5 Rhapsodee said:

Welcome to the club! It's difficult to have RW friends because there is too much we can't talk about. They sense the hole in the conversation.

Exactly! It is that way for me too. At least as a family we don't have friends, nobody likes to visit a family where you can feel the thick air.

baza Senior Members Tread your own path Posts: 5,556	Random thoughts on Easter Nov 30, 2016 2:32:29 GMT -5 greatcoastal likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by baza on Nov 30, 2016 2:32:29 GMT -5 This looks like the first story in this group. How's it going since March Brother miestas ??

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