Post by tamara68 on Jul 16, 2017 4:08:25 GMT -5
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greatcoastal suggested sharing our victories. That's a good idea. There have been many small and some big victories that make a big difference compared to how life used to be.
Biggest victory, and maybe that sums it all up: I can be me now!
I live my life according my way now. Make my own choices, my own mistakes, my own successes.
Other Victories
I have got rid of an enormous obstacle that was blocking everything in life that makes life worth living. A heavy weight has been lifted from my shoulders.
I got laid
many times, since I have started outsourcing. But the best was in my own home with a man I have got to know on EP 3 years ago. He has stayed with me for a few days a couple of times. That was awesome. That has come to an end now, but the experience was unforgettable.
I have my own apartment, it looks good. On a sunny day I love how the light falls on the furniture, how the colors look so well. I like the color combinations that I have chosen. My room reflects my taste, reflects me.
I have revived my hobbies. photography and painting. I am still lacking time, but I have made a start. My creativity is coming alive again. That is of huge importance to me. I have always had the urge to create things. Especially during the second half of my marriage - same time the sex disappeared, there was no room for my creativity. That made me feel half dead. Creating was my purpose in life so my life was (almost) without purpose for a long time. Those days are over!
I have done a lot of things that I couldn't do with my husband. Going to a restaurant, visiting people, having people over at my house, try new food, drinking a bit too much.. ,
getting to know new people, wearing different clothes, matching lingerie , walking bare feet, growing strawberries, buying something at a junk sale (totally unacceptable before!), go to a sauna, to a swimming pool, buy a second hand book, wear sandals, leave the house whenever I want without explanations.
Very important: driving lessons! I have started in January, got a learners license in April and bought a car!. Hopefully I will pass my exam in August.
I am getting more confident in the car but still have to practice a lot.
I have thought about things I want to improve and one by one I am working on everything.
In a few weeks I am going on a holiday! That will be a big victory too. My stbx stated that he didn't like travel. So he made the decision that we don't travel. He has made his little world as narrow as possible.
My world is expanding!
greatcoastal suggested sharing our victories. That's a good idea. There have been many small and some big victories that make a big difference compared to how life used to be.
Biggest victory, and maybe that sums it all up: I can be me now!
I live my life according my way now. Make my own choices, my own mistakes, my own successes.
Other Victories
I have got rid of an enormous obstacle that was blocking everything in life that makes life worth living. A heavy weight has been lifted from my shoulders.
I got laid
many times, since I have started outsourcing. But the best was in my own home with a man I have got to know on EP 3 years ago. He has stayed with me for a few days a couple of times. That was awesome. That has come to an end now, but the experience was unforgettable.I have my own apartment, it looks good. On a sunny day I love how the light falls on the furniture, how the colors look so well. I like the color combinations that I have chosen. My room reflects my taste, reflects me.
I have revived my hobbies. photography and painting. I am still lacking time, but I have made a start. My creativity is coming alive again. That is of huge importance to me. I have always had the urge to create things. Especially during the second half of my marriage - same time the sex disappeared, there was no room for my creativity. That made me feel half dead. Creating was my purpose in life so my life was (almost) without purpose for a long time. Those days are over!
I have done a lot of things that I couldn't do with my husband. Going to a restaurant, visiting people, having people over at my house, try new food, drinking a bit too much.. ,
getting to know new people, wearing different clothes, matching lingerie
, walking bare feet, growing strawberries, buying something at a junk sale (totally unacceptable before!), go to a sauna, to a swimming pool, buy a second hand book, wear sandals, leave the house whenever I want without explanations.Very important: driving lessons! I have started in January, got a learners license in April and bought a car!. Hopefully I will pass my exam in August.
I am getting more confident in the car but still have to practice a lot.
I have thought about things I want to improve and one by one I am working on everything.
In a few weeks I am going on a holiday! That will be a big victory too. My stbx stated that he didn't like travel. So he made the decision that we don't travel. He has made his little world as narrow as possible.
My world is expanding!
Be well!