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Post by bballgirl on Jul 12, 2017 14:41:50 GMT -5
So I met this man in May he's 50, educated. He is a nice man and a responsible person. We had sex it was good not great, he thinks it's amazing. The entire month of June I blew him off. I did not see him. Ignored texts. I told him I do not feel a romantic connection. He was persistent and it turned me on so I agreed to go out with him again last Sunday. We had a nice evening - better than good sex and then to dinner.
So today I get a text from him and I was annoyed because it went straight to sex and you all know that bballgirl is no prude but at least ask me how I am first. The old passive me would have not said anything even if I let it fizzle out but I said screw that so this was the text I sent him:
"Hey I've gotta tell you "Hi I'm at work I need a BJ " Does not turn me on. We are Middle Aged and How are you? How is your day? Goes a lot further to start a conversation. Our minds are our biggest sex organs and we are both intelligent people. This is the third time you have texted to me like this. It makes me feel cheap and dirty and not sure we are a match I understand you may be just trying to be funny or flirty but if I don't say anything then shame on me "
He apologized and thanked me for saying something.
So Go Me! Sticking up for myself and being assertive. I'm not ready to cut bait on this one yet but I do see a shelf life and I have a date with a new guy on Friday night that I'm looking forward to.
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Post by jim44444 on Jul 12, 2017 14:52:43 GMT -5
Good response bballgirl. You told him how you felt without condemning him. FWIW, I am not at work and I need a BJ. The W said "Sucks to be you". ðŸ˜
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 12, 2017 14:54:24 GMT -5
Good response bballgirl. You told him how you felt without condemning him. FWIW, I am not at work and I need a BJ. The W said "Sucks to be you". 😠I'm laughing and sad for you at the same time. Hugs
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Post by northstarmom on Jul 12, 2017 16:17:07 GMT -5
WTG bballgirl! You are an inspiration for how to soar in oppositeland.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2017 16:32:04 GMT -5
Ok, it took me a minute to stop laughing. Apparently, this man thinks he is still in college. But you handled things really well.
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Post by beachguy on Jul 12, 2017 16:32:20 GMT -5
Women are so complicated...
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Post by beachguy on Jul 12, 2017 16:32:36 GMT -5
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Post by nancyb on Jul 12, 2017 16:33:59 GMT -5
Excellent communication skills there BBgirl. xo Some people are so obtuse.
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Post by beachguy on Jul 12, 2017 16:34:37 GMT -5
On a more serious note, good for you for asserting yourself and your needs!
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 12, 2017 16:56:34 GMT -5
Ok, it took me a minute to stop laughing. Apparently, this man thinks he is still in college. But you handled things really well. Exactly- I thought to myself what an idiot! He had done is twice before but the third time and 3 strikes you are going to hear what I think.
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 12, 2017 16:57:19 GMT -5
WTG bballgirl! You are an inspiration for how to soar in oppositeland. Thank you It means a lot coming from you! You are an inspiration!!
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Post by beachguy on Jul 12, 2017 17:03:23 GMT -5
Ok, it took me a minute to stop laughing. Apparently, this man thinks he is still in college. But you handled things really well. You know, there was no sexting when he was in college. Maybe he was in an SM and still trying to figure sexting out?
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 12, 2017 17:12:01 GMT -5
Ok, it took me a minute to stop laughing. Apparently, this man thinks he is still in college. But you handled things really well. You know, there was no sexting when he was in college. Â Maybe he was in an SM and still trying to figure sexting out? Let me field this one! He's been divorced 7 years and had 2 gf's He's just clueless and either doesn't realize what bballgirl is about, is making assumptions, and will probably be texting another woman in hopefully a more respectful way because bballgirl taught him something- Ask how are you? First. What a concept! Clueless lol
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Post by beachguy on Jul 12, 2017 17:31:19 GMT -5
OK, well I never ever sexted my wife. That ship sailed long before at least she had a smart phone. So I'm still learning too. How about this? Me: How's your day, bballgirl? You: Ok, what's up? Me: I need a BJ How am I doing here? LOL but I really am a lousy sexter ETA: Do they teach this shit in college now?
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 12, 2017 17:33:30 GMT -5
OK, well I never ever sexted my wife. That ship sailed long before at least she had a smart phone. So I'm still learning too. How about this? Me: How's your day, bballgirl? You: Ok, what's up? Me: I need a BJ How am I doing here? LOL but I really am a lousy sexter ETA: Â Do they teach this shit in college now? Much better Even if you don't care how I am Pretend that you do If I were a man I'd have a texting protocol Like a programming language to get in a woman's pussy
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