Post by greatcoastal on Aug 6, 2017 12:52:15 GMT -5
I read a similar exercise to do for yourself like this one. Write a goodbye letter to what your letting go. It may be your home, your relationship, or a long ago loss. Start with something more superficial, eventually you will grow ready to say good bye to major aspects of your life.
The book I found this in is titled "Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends" by Bruce Fisher, EDD and Robert Alberti. PHD. A book used in divorce recovery. (More than one million copies sold)
I wrote my own letter last week. I titled it "Saying Goodbye What is the Loss and What is the Gain". It was therapeutic. It took me about an hour to come up with 2 pages. The Gain part turned out to be much longer and better.
I also look forward to giving it a season, and writing it again. Some day i'll post it.
Last summer, one Friday evening I googled the phrase 'sexless marriage' for the first time and a whole new world opened up! I read until the early hours of the morning and this was one of the three quotes I copied and pasted to keep. The next morning I went into town and opened a separate bank account - my first step out. Every time I felt myself weakening in my decision to leave, I re-read this piece. Thank you
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