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Post by rdp62 on Jun 27, 2017 3:38:31 GMT -5
Killing all emotion going completely numb
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Post by tamara68 on Jun 27, 2017 4:07:14 GMT -5
That is not surviving. It is mental suicide.
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Post by h on Jun 27, 2017 4:52:31 GMT -5
Survival is about doing anything you can to prevent death. Emotions are irrelevant if you are at the point of survival. If killing emotion and going numb prevents you from driving 100 mph into a bridge abutment, you have successfully survived. Most antidepressants work on the same concept. They don't make you feel better, they just make you feel less bad by making you feel less of everything.
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Post by alreadygone on Jun 27, 2017 5:11:25 GMT -5
I have had sex three times in the last seven years. My mind is destroyed, my focus and concentration all but gone, my self-esteem and pride are shot, my spirit is numb, I have scolded God and told Jesus to come down here so I could beat his ass because I have prayed so hard for a respite. My wife is a controller. I need to leave......before it's too late. The prelim work is done. Now it is just "The Talk". I don't know how to answer the question because I don't know how I'm still here.
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Post by ironhamster on Jun 27, 2017 5:12:51 GMT -5
To survive, you need hope and distractions. I've spent quite a bit on hobbies throughout the years, and work about three thousand hours a year. That kept my mind off the one problem I should have faced head on. You can follow my example, or find a better path.
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Post by ironhamster on Jun 27, 2017 6:09:30 GMT -5
I have had sex three times in the last seven years. My mind is destroyed, my focus and concentration all but gone, my self-esteem and pride are shot, my spirit is numb, I have scolded God and told Jesus to come down here so I could beat his ass because I have prayed so hard for a respite. My wife is a controller. I need to leave......before it's too late. The prelim work is done. Now it is just "The Talk". I don't know how to answer the question because I don't know how I'm still here. You do realize there is nothing Christian about your sexless companion. She is the one doing wrong in the eyes of God. The bible is clear on that. I blame the modern church, which is too timid to face real issues. |
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Post by hopingforachange on Jun 27, 2017 7:10:57 GMT -5
I tired digging a hole to burry my feelings, but all I was doing was digging my own grave. Thank goodness the antidepressants helped me realize what I was doing and helped me get out of the hole.
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Post by alreadygone on Jun 27, 2017 8:32:51 GMT -5
Here's the irony for many, myself included.......you can go numb, check out, kill your emotions, all to survive.......but it all comes roaring back when you try to get the nerve to announce you are leaving.
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Post by lifeinwoodinville on Jun 27, 2017 8:42:26 GMT -5
My psychologist advised me to find things to do on my own, to focus on me rather then my wife. The idea being that I get time away from her, I meet new people, and I develop relationships with those people. Hoping that I will see what else is out there and maybe meet someone. So, what did I do? This year I started volunteering for a charity for a fund raising event to support people with Parkinson's disease, which I happen to have. I personally raised about $4200 in donations and contributed to raising thousands more by getting others involved. I admit, it was a self esteem booster, I felt good about myself and what I did. And there were some rather nice ladies involved too.
So that event is over, what now? I'm thinking boxing! There is a boxing program for people with Parkinson's, I'm one of the "youth onset" Parkinson's people in that I was diagnosed at 34 and I am only 44 now, most people with Parkinson's are much older. I think that I could really clean up on some of the older Parkinson's people in boxing competitions! Who knows, maybe I will find a nice lady Parkinson's boxer who will beat my ass down in the ring and then do it again later in bed.
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Post by baza on Jun 27, 2017 19:53:07 GMT -5
Funny you should say that Brother lifeinwoodinville . I used to be a boxer. A friend of Ms enna and I has Parkies (diagnosed early in 2010) and as part of her management regime I have been showing her basic footwork and simple combination punches and a bit of speedball work. She loves it. Given that she is in her late 50's this is not going to be a "Million Dollar Baby" deal, but if she were 30 years younger she'd have made a handy middleweight I reckon. Like you she is very active in the local support group, the 'Walk in the Park' fundraiser etc etc and invariably ropes our loose affiliation of friends and family in to such events, at which we all tend to have a ball. |
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