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Post by Deleted on Jun 20, 2017 14:36:21 GMT -5
For those of you who have gotten out of a SM, do you regret it?
I don't remember anyone saying that he/she did, but I wanted to ask to make sure.
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Post by misssunnybunny on Jun 20, 2017 14:46:18 GMT -5
Not at all. Life is better in Opposite Land
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Post by northstarmom on Jun 20, 2017 14:54:26 GMT -5
Hell, no. I wish I had done it years earlier, but I wasn't ready then. I had to develop the awareness that nothing was wrong with me for desiring sex. I also had to develop the ability to confidently live independently without my husband. That meant I had to finally get effective treatment for my lifelong depression.
I had to develop awareness of my own considerable strengths including strengths like being able to emotionally connect with others. That was part of my personality that my ex thought was bad, but it's what makes me me and helps me get friends and a lover who love and appreciate me.
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 20, 2017 15:57:28 GMT -5
Not at all. My life is happier now.
We had a very bad marriage
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Post by baza on Jun 20, 2017 18:48:56 GMT -5
No regrets here (out by over 7 years)
But that is not to trivialise or disrespect my marriage or ex spouse in any way.
In one way, I "wish" it hadn't come to that.
But given that it DID come to that, I "wish" I had done it sooner.
PS - I opened a thread in the "SM issues" folder posing the exact same question to stayers - Do You Regret Staying ?
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Post by WindSister on Jun 20, 2017 19:28:24 GMT -5
Oh my goodness. Don't even get me started, I don't have time to type.
NO!!!! 😍
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Post by Caris on Jun 20, 2017 21:10:54 GMT -5
I only regret that it didn't work out, and I was forced to leave. Had he managed our finances better, I doubt I would have left, but he would have ruined me financially had I stayed, and left me homeless and penniless.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2017 19:52:51 GMT -5
I was expecting these answers. I really didn't think anyone would regret getting out of a sexless marriage.
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Post by ironhamster on Jun 22, 2017 12:47:04 GMT -5
I have an odd question, and, maybe this needs a new thread. How do your deniers feel about the end of the marriage?
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Post by Caris on Jun 22, 2017 13:06:58 GMT -5
I have an odd question, and, maybe this needs a new thread. How do your deniers feel about the end of the marriage? Are there any deniers (refusers) in this group? I'm not aware of any, but I was away for a long time, so maybe there are. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 22, 2017 13:28:00 GMT -5
I have an odd question, and, maybe this needs a new thread. How do your deniers feel about the end of the marriage? My refuser was astounded that I actually moved out. At first, she thought she could shame me into coming right back, but then it hit her that I was serious. She showed some serious remorse, and I agreed to counseling. But the progression of her opinion went this way: At first, she was sorry for refusing so many years, but about a month later, she said it was not all her fault. About 6 weeks after that, she said it was just as much my fault as hers, and by the end of counseling, she actually said that the ONLY reason we did not have sex for 6 years was because I did not ask enough. She also went right back to her verbally abusive self, so I stopped the counseling, and filed for divorce. |
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Post by ironhamster on Jun 22, 2017 13:32:47 GMT -5
I have an odd question, and, maybe this needs a new thread. How do your deniers feel about the end of the marriage? Are there any deniers (refusers) in this group? I'm not aware of any, but I was away for a long time, so maybe there are. I only know of one denier in the group, and she is still in her marriage. I'm curious about what the other side felt. |
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Post by Caris on Jun 22, 2017 16:57:36 GMT -5
Are there any deniers (refusers) in this group? I'm not aware of any, but I was away for a long time, so maybe there are. I only know of one denier in the group, and she is still in her marriage. I'm curious about what the other side felt. Sorry, I misread your question. I read "you" instead of "your," and that makes a difference. |
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Post by novembercomingfire on Jun 22, 2017 17:12:29 GMT -5
I have an odd question, and, maybe this needs a new thread. How do your deniers feel about the end of the marriage? Pretty good it seems. Just got done with a long conversation about how any lack of intimacy was because of a few things that i did and/or didn't do. Fine. She can have it her way. We are done in any event. |
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Post by DryCreek on Jun 22, 2017 22:07:34 GMT -5
Just got done with a long conversation about how any lack of intimacy was because of a few things that i did and/or didn't do. Fine. She can have it her way. We are done in any event. Being free matters more than being right. Let them think what they want. |
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