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Post by bballgirl on Jun 16, 2017 11:41:37 GMT -5
I brought the kids to their dad's house this evening. This is the house I used to live in with him. I left that house and moved out. Tonight I had to go into the house to help the kids bring some things into it and he has gotten new furniture, started painting the inside, etc. He was able to modify the loan which I am no longer on the house or the loan and he's paying half of what I pay in rent. Since the divorce he got promoted to VP of the company and has doubled his salary. I know in the long run I am better off not married to him. I'm happy for the children and for their stability that they can stay in that house. I just feel like he was a shitty husband so I divorced him and now he is getting rewarded. I'm just venting and feeling down. I recall feeling like that afterwards, too. I totally get it. TOTALLY. The song "Better Man" comes to mind, honestly. Yup, you ARE better off. You know that. Feelings ebb and flow, you will rock on.  Yep that song - the words are exactly it. I'm better today - thank you! |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 16, 2017 11:56:58 GMT -5
There's always the "easy come- easy go" rule of life. Your ex could also get fired tomorrow. He may gamble it away, or he may find another victim to hook up with who drains his bank account...who knows?
What you do know is what you have. Your self, your self worth, your freedom. Your children, their love and respect for you. Your job, the admiration and respect that comes with it, the hours, your retirement.
Let him invest in false idols, "materialism" it's fleeting. Like building a house on sand. Stick with your solid foundation. You brought that to the marriage decades ago. That's why it lasted. He threw it away. You know have an even stronger foundation because of it. Keep moving forward.
Something to remember about the past, it has no future in it!
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Post by Caris on Jun 23, 2017 17:26:07 GMT -5
It's perfectly normal to feel this way, and vent all you want. You need to get it out. It does seem unfair, except the one consolation is it benefits your children. It's the irony of life.
Hugs.
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