Sex or Intimacy more important

rdp62 Full Member Posts: 138	Sex or Intimacy more important Jun 15, 2017 8:26:43 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by rdp62 on Jun 15, 2017 8:26:43 GMT -5 Hi good morning everyone maybe break a stereotype here

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Post by shamwow on Jun 15, 2017 8:39:14 GMT -5

When I first got here, I would have said sex, sex, sex, sex

But as time goes by, I realized that 13 years of not hearing the words "I love you" was just as bad as 3 years without getting laid.

I want both. The full package. The whole enchilada. The whole kit and kadoodle. I want it all. I DESERVE both. I will NOT settle for less ever again.

Hmmmm perhaps I'm being a bit ambiguous. I'll let the reader decide.

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Jun 15, 2017 8:39:14 GMT -5 shamwow said:

When I first got here, I would have said sex, sex, sex, sex

But as time goes by, I realized that 13 years of not hearing the words "I love you" was just as bad as 3 years without getting laid.

I want both. The full package. The whole enchilada. The whole kit and kadoodle. I want it all. I DESERVE both. I will NOT settle for less ever again.

Hmmmm perhaps I'm being a bit ambiguous. I'll let the reader decide.

13 years of not hearing that... You are not alone, I have been there. Pain beyond words

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Sex or Intimacy more important Jun 15, 2017 9:28:15 GMT -5 greatcoastal, Venus Erotes, and 1 more like this

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Jun 15, 2017 9:23:58 GMT -5 rdp62 said:

Jun 15, 2017 8:39:14 GMT -5 shamwow said:

When I first got here, I would have said sex, sex, sex, sex

But as time goes by, I realized that 13 years of not hearing the words "I love you" was just as bad as 3 years without getting laid.

I want both. The full package. The whole enchilada. The whole kit and kadoodle. I want it all. I DESERVE both. I will NOT settle for less ever again.

Hmmmm perhaps I'm being a bit ambiguous. I'll let the reader decide.

13 years of not hearing those words... You are not alone, I have been there. Pain beyond words

Yup...and to top it off, the 13 year mark is on the day my son was born. Every year, his birthday is a private and bittersweet occasion for me. Hopefully the divorce breaks that cycle for next year.

Once my role as sperm donor was complete, I was no longer really needed / wanted / loved except for a paycheck and someone to help shuttle the kids around.

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Post by rdp62 on Jun 15, 2017 9:30:19 GMT -5

Maybe this is something that finally got my wife's attention.I told her the state we were in was not an inconvenience or not important. The lack of intimacy not just sex was causing severe emotional pain and if I had to I would have to leave to survive.

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wewbwb Senior Members But I could be wrong... Posts: 6,438	Sex or Intimacy more important Jun 15, 2017 9:42:11 GMT -5 baza likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by wewbwb on Jun 15, 2017 9:42:11 GMT -5 Jun 15, 2017 9:23:58 GMT -5 rdp62 said: Jun 15, 2017 8:39:14 GMT -5 shamwow said: 13 years of not hearing that... Pain beyond words
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Deleted Deleted Member Posts: 0	Sex or Intimacy more important Jun 15, 2017 10:06:04 GMT -5 choosinghappy likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2017 10:06:04 GMT -5 But a more interesting question is if we had a choice of one without the possibility of the other, which would we choose? I would say intimacy for me.

Apocrypha Senior Members Posts: 1,324 Age Range: 51-55	Sex or Intimacy more important Jun 15, 2017 11:44:27 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Apocrypha on Jun 15, 2017 11:44:27 GMT -5 More important for what? Both are important.

novembercomingfire Full Member Rude, Tattooed, and Rarely Screwed ... Posts: 454	Sex or Intimacy more important Jun 15, 2017 13:21:16 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by novembercomingfire on Jun 15, 2017 13:21:16 GMT -5 I am going to have to say sex. I may be done with intimacy.
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bballgirl Senior Members Posts: 3,462	Sex or Intimacy more important Jun 15, 2017 13:31:51 GMT -5 via mobile DryCreek, greatcoastal, and 2 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by bballgirl on Jun 15, 2017 13:31:51 GMT -5 Both. Connection, communication, and trust.

merrygoround Full Member Posts: 318	Sex or Intimacy more important Jun 15, 2017 15:30:03 GMT -5 via mobile DryCreek, bballgirl, and 2 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by merrygoround on Jun 15, 2017 15:30:03 GMT -5 I'm a whole package kinda girl. Again, all intertwined for me. One feeds the other and on it goes. Or should go.

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northstarmom Senior Members Posts: 4,357	Sex or Intimacy more important Jun 15, 2017 16:36:31 GMT -5 via mobile rdp62 likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by northstarmom on Jun 15, 2017 16:36:31 GMT -5 Sex is the deepest form of intimacy there is when it is part of a relationship that includes commitment and emotional intimacy. Thinking that I said both are important.

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Post by choosinghappy on Jun 15, 2017 18:01:16 GMT -5

Jun 15, 2017 10:06:04 GMT -5 @shynjdude said:

But a more interesting question is if we had a choice of one without the possibility of the other, which would we choose?

I would say intimacy for me.

^^This. If I had to pick one that is harder to live without it is intimacy. At least you feel loved and important. (While you get yourself off

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Jun 15, 2017 16:36:31 GMT -5 nolongerlonely said:

One goes with the other. Without one of them, theres no meaning

I agree. It's like someone giving you a sandwich with just 2 pieces of bread you aren't going to be happy. You might eat it once or twice because the bread is great but no one can live by bread alone.