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Post by Caris on Sept 14, 2017 9:25:38 GMT -5
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 14, 2017 9:48:28 GMT -5
I don't hate anyone, never have. What I do hate is the behavior and attitude of cold hearts and indifference. As for anger, I'm not usually an angry person, but real anger (when I feel it) has always been helpful to me. Anger, like everything else, can be constructive or destructive. Destructive anger is not good, and can be very harmful. Constructive anger is like igniting a fire within. It creates an energy that wasn't there before. It motivates me to move, and do something about a situation. I have been in the depths of depression, without energy or motivation to move. Every thing takes great effort. It feels like wading through mud, and the fatigue of body and mind are great. However, I have felt like this numerous times, but some thing comes along to anger me, I mean really make me angry because I am slow to anger, then it's had the effect of energizing me. My head clears, the adrenaline pumps through my veins, and it's like being renewed. I charge forward with determination and zest to work on some task or problem that I was unable to do before. In fact, I wish I felt this kind of anger every day because I can tell you it's much better than this low level listless depression that I feel day in and day out. It sucks the energy and enthusiasm for life right out of me. Right there with ya! What also renews me and lights my fire, is constructive praise, affection, and passion shown towards me and openly accepted by someone else! That's my new quest. I wan't to grow from a steady diet of that, and not so much negativity. Sure it's healing and healthy to get confirmation that "it wasn't you, your wife is a bitch, you where way to giving, etc...." I'm glad that many of us are choosing that path. A path of enthusiasm and energy for a happy self. |
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Post by Caris on Sept 14, 2017 10:08:48 GMT -5
I don't hate anyone, never have. What I do hate is the behavior and attitude of cold hearts and indifference. As for anger, I'm not usually an angry person, but real anger (when I feel it) has always been helpful to me. Anger, like everything else, can be constructive or destructive. Destructive anger is not good, and can be very harmful. Constructive anger is like igniting a fire within. It creates an energy that wasn't there before. It motivates me to move, and do something about a situation. I have been in the depths of depression, without energy or motivation to move. Every thing takes great effort. It feels like wading through mud, and the fatigue of body and mind are great. However, I have felt like this numerous times, but some thing comes along to anger me, I mean really make me angry because I am slow to anger, then it's had the effect of energizing me. My head clears, the adrenaline pumps through my veins, and it's like being renewed. I charge forward with determination and zest to work on some task or problem that I was unable to do before. In fact, I wish I felt this kind of anger every day because I can tell you it's much better than this low level listless depression that I feel day in and day out. It sucks the energy and enthusiasm for life right out of me. Right there with ya! What also renews me and lights my fire, is constructive praise, affection, and passion shown towards me and openly accepted by someone else! That's my new quest. I wan't to grow from a steady diet of that, and not so much negativity. Sure it's healing and healthy to get confirmation that "it wasn't you, your wife is a bitch, you where way to giving, etc...." I'm glad that many of us are choosing that path. A path of enthusiasm and energy for a happy self. Thank God that someone gets it! And encouragement, recognition, and affection, along with understanding...Yes! Yes! Yes! I thrive when I receive genuine affection and care. It's the foundation of me thriving and blooming. It's like putting me in a desert with no water or food, and asking me to do a HIIT workout. I can't do it without the right conditions. Take away the heat, and give me the proper watering and nutrients, and my flower blooms with energy. I've never felt so much at peace as when I'm loved and wanted. I don't receive affection from anyone, so I keep going by reading kind messages I received years ago, or by small kindnesses from strangers, like someone helping me at the grocery store, or me showing loving kindness to others because I don't just need to receive love, I need to give love too. I don't blame my husband. I can't do that. He was as much a victim of himself as I was, and it was my choice to stay. He must have been unhappy too, so even though I will share and vent how his rejection hurt me, I won't besmirch him as a human being. I feel sad for him, and now he will never know happiness, so that is very sad to me. |
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Sept 14, 2017 11:22:53 GMT -5
I like this thread. Thank you itme for suggesting and initiating it. I do try to envision my life as a journey, sometimes twisting and turning violently like a raging river, but at other times calmer and gently trickling along like a creek. For a long time I believed that the primary source of happiness in my journey would come from the main relationship in my life. Im at a point in my journey where I have been questioning that belief. And it occurs to me that I am responsible for my happiness. So I find myself channeling sexual energy elsewhere in my life. To other things that improve me and bring me joy. I wanted to share with you all one of the passions of my life. Its a sport that Ive known since my earliest memories as a young boy. It has always been a solace for me at every stage of my life. Because when I play it or watch it, even on TV, it completely absorbs me and emotionally invigorates me. Im fortunate that my family shares this passion with me. Even W. Im fortunate that one of my sons plays at a very high level and we get to travel places he gets invited to compete. Its a tremendous bonding experience for my son and I. This year we had an opportunity to visit Spain. While there we visted a few cities and even a little side trip to Mainz, Germany as luck would have it. I am not sure if anyone on this forum follows Champions League soccer so the following video clip may not capture the imagination. Here's the pre-game presentation at Camp Nou in Barcelona as my son and I along with 90,000 soccer crazies eagerly wait for the FC Barcelona vs Juventus match to start in last years competition. 😁😁😁 |
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 14, 2017 22:58:17 GMT -5
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