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Post by rdp62 on Jun 9, 2017 8:32:42 GMT -5
Does anybody here have PTSD or C-PTSD? Part of the problem is my wife refuses or little intimacy (that I miss as much) or sex because of and until I get better but really makes C-PTSD much worse especially considering the cause. I have been going to very difficult weekly EMDR therapy for past year partly to show I am trying and I have been getting better but no difference in her interest. I think she has just been using as an excuse. I feel for anybody else going through both and you are not alone.
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Post by baza on Jun 10, 2017 4:31:19 GMT -5
Out of my pay-grade Brother rdp62I certainly had a flat spot after my army service, but nothing as bad as that. I'd figure there'd be on-line support groups (?) Might be worth a google. |
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Post by rdp62 on Jun 10, 2017 7:22:24 GMT -5
Thanks Baza I am a member if PTSD support groups that is very good but they don't go into SM relationship at all. Maybe should bring the subject up but been on long enough and talked to several would be embarrassed maybe is the word to ask about this publicly even if anonymous.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 11, 2017 8:53:30 GMT -5
I do, related to an assault in 2001. I went through therapy, support groups, but by far the most difficult was EMDR.
Because of this, I tend to live my life very cautiously. Sometimes I wish I felt like I didn't have to plan everything. I look at crime statistics when I have to go somewhere new by myself. I check Google street view for places to avoid. I have a near-eidetic memory for faces, license plates, clothing someone is wearing, my surroundings, etc. It isn't easy to make someone understand why you react the way you do.
I'm sorry to hear you're also dealing with it. If I can be of any support for you, please tell me. Hugs!
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Post by Venus Erotes on Jun 11, 2017 18:39:18 GMT -5
Me too. Rape last September. I was already in therapy, and realizing it was rape took me a few days. Date/acquaintance rape.... I barely remember it, but I do remember telling him no over the course of the evening. A leave of absence and more intense therapy and medications through my psychiatrist helped me get back in line.
I've also used it as a spring board to leap myself forward, through the trauma, to a position of survivor and no one is standing in my way. There is no way in HELL I am letting that asshole and what he did to me control my life.
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Post by rdp62 on Jun 12, 2017 7:51:21 GMT -5
I do, related to an assault in 2001. I went through therapy, support groups, but by far the most difficult was EMDR. Because of this, I tend to live my life very cautiously. Sometimes I wish I felt like I didn't have to plan everything. I look at crime statistics when I have to go somewhere new by myself. I check Google street view for places to avoid. I have a near-eidetic memory for faces, license plates, clothing someone is wearing, my surroundings, etc. It isn't easy to make someone understand why you react the way you do. I'm sorry to hear you're also dealing with it. If I can be of any support for you, please tell me. Hugs! Sorry to hear you are dealing with this too and hopefully recovery is working for you. EMDR is very difficult for me triggers almost immediate conversion disorder seizures had to use a physical form because can't talk during seizure. 60 minute therapy in 45 min full seizure. My wife's refusal triggers C-PTSD symptoms. Just having someone to talk to would be so appreciated being lonely with is too much |
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Post by rdp62 on Jun 12, 2017 8:05:00 GMT -5
Me too. Rape last September. I was already in therapy, and realizing it was rape took me a few days. Date/acquaintance rape.... I barely remember it, but I do remember telling him no over the course of the evening. A leave of absence and more intense therapy and medications through my psychiatrist helped me get back in line. I've also used it as a spring board to leap myself forward, through the trauma, to a position of survivor and no one is standing in my way. There is no way in HELL I am letting that asshole and what he did to me control my life. I am so sorry to hear what happened. More than sorry wish I knew what to say to help. I am fighting, I am fighting so hard, to not let the past win. Thank you for this. The mornings are just the worst would like to say hi in the mornings to stop the loneliness? There is no way in HELL I am letting that asshole and what he did to me control my life. |
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Post by petrushka on Jun 12, 2017 8:51:37 GMT -5
Sorry to hear you are dealing with this too and hopefully recovery is working for you. EMDR is very difficult for me triggers almost immediate conversion disorder seizures had to use a physical form because can't talk during seizure. 60 minute therapy in 45 min full seizure. My wife's refusal triggers C-PTSD symptoms. Just having someone to talk to would be so appreciated being lonely with is too much I don't know anything about you. I don't know what your trauma is/was, I have no idea how your wife's avoidant behaviour triggers your symptoms. Hell, I don't even know what shape your wife's refusal takes (my wife's refusal for instance takes the form that she cannot talk about her emotions and she's clamps down on herself when faced with someone passionate). However, I know this much: if your EMDR is triggering almost immediate conversion seizures, then it is probably a really good idea to dump that approach and try something different to get a handle on your PTSD (C- or not). The fact that it may work for some people does not mean it will work for you. And you said, some place, I think, that you'd been at this for a year or more. The whole spiel about EMDR is, that it's supposed to have almost instant success. Any sensitive therapist knows ( or at least should know ) that not every therapy works for every patient - in fact, using the wrong tool can make things worse, a lot worse. Only an idiot would persist at that point, a good therapist would try to refer you to someone with different tools. (and I know how that goes, I've been a dickhead once or twice myself) I am just throwing this out there as 'food for thought'. I was out of the field by 10 years when EMDR was invented (but I heard about Francine, I do keep up, some). But the principle, in my opinion, still applies. |
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Post by rdp62 on Jun 12, 2017 9:03:10 GMT -5
Yes weekly for over a year. I stopped going when I found out therapist had not heard if Conversion Disorder and had seen dozens of seizures. I asked him if he knew and he said no. I found by googling flasback seizure. This is what they are like but don't watch if sensitive 45 min of this a week I think for nothing
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Post by rdp62 on Jun 12, 2017 9:06:31 GMT -5
Have new psychiatrist meeting tonight sorry for all of this a little stressed know this is going to happen
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Post by rdp62 on Jun 12, 2017 9:10:03 GMT -5
Sorry to hear you are dealing with this too and hopefully recovery is working for you. EMDR is very difficult for me triggers almost immediate conversion disorder seizures had to use a physical form because can't talk during seizure. 60 minute therapy in 45 min full seizure. My wife's refusal triggers C-PTSD symptoms. Just having someone to talk to would be so appreciated being lonely with is too much I don't know anything about you. I don't know what your trauma is/was, I have no idea how your wife's avoidant behaviour triggers your symptoms. Hell, I don't even know what shape your wife's refusal takes (my wife's refusal for instance takes the form that she cannot talk about her emotions and she's clamps down on herself when faced with someone passionate). However, I know this much: if your EMDR is triggering almost immediate conversion seizures, then it is probably a really good idea to dump that approach and try something different to get a handle on your PTSD (C- or not). The fact that it may work for some people does not mean it will work for you. And you said, some place, I think, that you'd been at this for a year or more. The whole spiel about EMDR is, that it's supposed to have almost instant success. Any sensitive therapist knows ( or at least should know ) that not every therapy works for every patient - in fact, using the wrong tool can make things worse, a lot worse. Only an idiot would persist at that point, a good therapist would try to refer you to someone with different tools. (and I know how that goes, I've been a dickhead once or twice myself) I am just throwing this out there as 'food for thought'. I was out of the field by 10 years when EMDR was invented (but I heard about Francine, I do keep up, some). But the principle, in my opinion, still applies. Thank you for this, seeing a new psychiatrist tonight. Stopped seeing therapist I think emdr was doing more harm than good but was going because wanted wife to know I was trying to get better |
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Post by rdp62 on Jun 13, 2017 7:37:27 GMT -5
I don't know if I can do this because of C-PTSD cause affection is like oxygen I am like Deadpool the movie she gives me just enough to keep alive not sex just simple affection. When she cuts it off can and has caused suicidal depressions and multiple attempts it is dangerous for me to do this and my both my depression and anxiety medications are screwed up right now and my psychiatrist appointments keep getting cancelled. I am trying but it's getting really hard. She is in a nice mode but I know as soon as I respond to her being nice she will cut it off. This is hell
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Post by Venus Erotes on Jun 14, 2017 18:15:22 GMT -5
Me too. Rape last September. I was already in therapy, and realizing it was rape took me a few days. Date/acquaintance rape.... I barely remember it, but I do remember telling him no over the course of the evening. A leave of absence and more intense therapy and medications through my psychiatrist helped me get back in line. I've also used it as a spring board to leap myself forward, through the trauma, to a position of survivor and no one is standing in my way. There is no way in HELL I am letting that asshole and what he did to me control my life. I am so sorry to hear what happened. More than sorry wish I knew what to say to help. I am fighting, I am fighting so hard, to not let the past win. Thank you for this. The mornings are just the worst would like to say hi in the mornings to stop the loneliness? There is no way in HELL I am letting that asshole and what he did to me control my life. I'm doing really well, but thank you for your concern! I hate seeing people in pain, and so often we need to work through the root of the pain so we can forgive and move on. Now, I don't forgive him, but I did go to a pretty incredible therapist who also uses hypnosis in her practice. She's UNBELIEVABLE! Find your peace and happiness @rpd62. You deserve to be happy! |
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Post by rdp62 on Jun 14, 2017 19:06:53 GMT -5
Thank you, I am fighting for peace, today was basically divorce day or not and maybe a glimmer of hope. Said no affection from me until she stopped treating me like s$+_+_ and I was not going to take it any more. She got really really upset and we talked for a hours and maybe.. ended up ok last night. Refused to kiss her goodbye this morning I said not until we got better and she got really really upset again and then she texted love you about 11am. No kiss good morning this sat not until things get better. Going to hold tough it was really really hard but happy I was able to do it
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Post by rdp62 on Jun 18, 2017 8:59:52 GMT -5
Relationships and mental illness.
Mental illness is incredibly hard in and on a relationship for both / all people involved. Very difficult if not impossible for people with and without to understand what the other is going through and this starts driving us apart. Has taken a lot of time in this situation but think we realized just in time to save us. Maybe should be heavily suggested almost required that therapy include relationship partners immediately after diagnosis so everyone understands each other's situation and what can help and what can hurt. Again very hard for everyone involved but we can get through and probably so much better and faster together. Thank you to all the supporters from one of the Ill. Please know we are trying...
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