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Post by shamwow on Jun 15, 2017 10:05:57 GMT -5
@venus Erotes, I am new to this. New, in that I am just waking up to the mess I made of my life. So, why do I stay? My bigest priority is my children. The relationship with my wifster is not hostile. In public, it looks very enviable. I do not want to disrupt the front of our happy home and the stability that provides. The only kid that knows is my eldest, who is getting married herself, and, I do not want following my example into her own hell on earth. My other issue is my accumulated wealth. I've busted my ass and tried to make the best financial decisions. My family wants for nothing and everything is paid for. I'm still adjusting to my realization that the plan is not going to be fulfilled. It's not mine, soon. I'm with you on the wealth thing. It is grating that after 20 years of working multiple jobs to build up a nest egg that I will be left with half of it, and her half will likely be pissed away in a few years. Was just saying to my dad yesterday "$40,000" doesn't seem like a lot to show for 20 years of working so many jobs to get ahead. But I've already go a side job lined back up again for after the divorce, and I will be rebuilding it back up. It has been an expensive lesson, but I don't see myself ever getting married again. |
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Post by ironhamster on Jun 15, 2017 10:12:07 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 19, 2017 19:26:40 GMT -5
HRT, doesn't solve her not wanting sex. I thought that a hormone deficiency might be a cause of little desire for sex, therefore replacing the absent hormones would increase desire in a woman. Just as a diminished level of testosterone can result in a lower libido for a male. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 19, 2017 19:28:35 GMT -5
How about 2 and done?.....I'm a slow learner |
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rev316
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Post by rev316 on Jun 22, 2017 16:07:07 GMT -5
Older guy here. Married to second wife for 8 years and we both were in our 50s when we met. I have been on TRT for about 4 years. Has brought me back to where I was in my early 40s as far as general health, movement, ability to do physical things, weight management, gym/muscle development and since I'm in a SM, my libido if not raging is at least shouting. Thus, I'm here.
She maintains that her libido left with menopause and is unwilling to even consider HRT--"because the process abuses horses." (Premarin is processed from the urine of pregnant mares.)
I'm not so sure it left with menopause as she is extraordinarily uptight. No oral, for instance...kinda shocking the first time I tried--had worked my way down, had her thighs on my shoulders and was headed toward the promised land when I got told, "No! I don't like that."
She has fine qualities, but but it's like the classic 80/20 situation. 80 percent is good/ok, but the 20 percent starts growing and clawing and soon becomes impossible.
Okay...rant/whine over.
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