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Post by jim44444 on Jun 6, 2017 16:55:44 GMT -5
The thing is, until you meet "the one," you keep looking -- so I think it's not totally fair, either, to say that the men there don't want a relationship. When a man finds a woman he wants, he sticks with her. He deletes his profile, etc. And vice versa. Until then, he doesn't (and vice versa). It feels a lot like everyone is "looking for the next best thing" when you are in the midst of the dating scene, though. I definitely remember that feeling. But, cliche as it is, when you finally meet "the right one" you realize why all the others didn't work out. I hope you're right. Because I'm beginning to wonder now if maybe I should just take the next non-violent, non-criminal who wants me....even if I'm not that into him. |
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Post by baza on Jun 6, 2017 20:12:36 GMT -5
I was idly speculating yesterday about a hypothetical.
Trying to see this from the perspective of the thread here.
How would I go getting a root and / or relationship at this point in my life if I was single ?
The logistics of my situation, small town, limited pool of available women etc being environmental limitations.
Then there's my own attitudes that provide further limitations, like ruling out *married* women, *recently bereaved* women, *young* women, women with *issues*, women I work with, women domiciled 000's of k's away, *high maintenance* women.
That sure rules out big numbers !
Then I looked at what I potentially bring to the table.
Nothing *special* that would make me stand out from the average run of blokes.
I am pretty honest with people, but that - in my experience - is not necessarily such a great "selling point".
I do have a sense of humour (believe that or not as you wish) and I am not terribly demanding.
My kids will take priority over you at times.
So I concluded that, in this hypothetical scenario, it is highly unlikely that I'd ever have a root again, let alone a relationship.
Then, it dawned on me.
As my ILIASM deal was winding down, the above hypothetical situation was actually my reality in 2009, and I was carrying the same attitude, that it was highly unlikely that I'd ever have a root again let alone a relationship.
And I was OK with that.
Sort of !!
The reality turned out to be very different.
You never know what is just around the corner.
I think therefore, that one is best served by keeping forward momentum up, so there are more corners to go around.
You never know what might lurk there.
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Post by Dan on Jun 9, 2017 12:46:29 GMT -5
Three things REALLY piss me off about this:
1) That he wasted your time, @smartkat .
2) That he is sufficiently successful in this scam that he keeps at it.
3) That scumbags like this make women that much more suspicious about dating and even men in general... thereby making it harder for great, decent guys like me to be given a chance with great, decent women.
(Well, I'm not looking at this time, so my anger on the last point is for "guys like me now" and for "future me".)
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Post by DryCreek on Jun 9, 2017 14:52:28 GMT -5
@smartkat, I must say that I'm curious where his scam leads. What was his end game? Just to hook you and have you send him things? Or maybe he gets "kidnapped" abroad and you're the only person who can pay his ransom?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2017 15:02:51 GMT -5
@smartkat, I must say that I'm curious where his scam leads. What was his end game? Just to hook you and have you send him things? Or maybe he gets "kidnapped" abroad and you're the only person who can pay his ransom? Money. I read up on those scams. The guys tell the woman a sob story about how they need money for this reason or that. If she's gullible enough, she'll do it. |
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Post by jim44444 on Jun 10, 2017 14:51:16 GMT -5
@smartkat , I must say that I'm curious where his scam leads. What was his end game? Just to hook you and have you send him things? Or maybe he gets "kidnapped" abroad and you're the only person who can pay his ransom? Money. I read up on those scams. The guys tell the woman a sob story about how they need money for this reason or that. If she's gullible enough, she'll do it. AARP had an article by a woman who was a lawyer that got taken for nearly $300,000 by an online con artist. And after she discovered the con and reported him he sent her an apology plus promised to repay her after he got on his feet. And, wait for it, He asked her to send money for bus fare so he could apologize in person. |
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Post by shamwow on Jun 10, 2017 15:35:58 GMT -5
Perhaps while your "army of one" is in Africa he can check on a Nigerian prince I sent some money to a few months back.
I haven't heard from the Prince in quite some time and am getting worried.
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Post by tamara68 on Jun 10, 2017 15:46:29 GMT -5
shamwow You should have replied the way James Veitch did:
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Post by shamwow on Jun 10, 2017 16:10:23 GMT -5
shamwow You should have replied the way James Veitch did: That is amazing! Loved it! |
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 12, 2017 7:20:09 GMT -5
YouTube video was great!
When I was first on EP a man tried to scam me out of money.
Another man claimed he was the actor Eric Bana and he was interested in a love connection.
I fucked with them both for a few days just for the fun of it!
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Post by seabr33z3 on Jun 12, 2017 7:40:22 GMT -5
Ha! Love it!👊
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