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Post by Deleted on Jun 6, 2017 9:02:08 GMT -5
(I also posted this at my blog - but am adding it here, because it might help somebody.)
I'm doing just great with online dating. Last week, I met a guy who threw a temper tantrum when I didn't answer his texts right away.
Yesterday, I caught a con artist.
This guy claimed to be in the Army, and said he was about to be deployed to a peacekeeping mission in Africa. (Really? Then how come this hasn't been in the news?)
I was already suspicious because he seemed to be getting serious about me pretty fast - without even having met me in person, and despite my telling him, "Let's slow this down."
He wanted me to "send him stuff he might need," that he couldn't get while there. (Um, no. The military gets its people what they really need. We're not talking about someone back home sending a care package.)
What put me over the edge of suspicion was when he said he wanted to introduce me to "a diplomat" who would assist me in getting things to him.
I know for a fact that nobody needs to go through a "diplomat" in order to communicate with somebody who's overseas with the U.S. military. If he was in something routine, there are ways to communicate with people deployed overseas (APO addresses, mail.mil email, etc.) And if he was in something that was deep and secret and complicated, he wouldn't have told me about it at all.
He had sent me some photos, so I used TinEye.com to search on them. And one of his photos turned up on a site called Scamwarners.com - he's done this before.
I told the Scamwarners site that this guy is still trying it; and I reported him to the online dating site where I met him.
I screenshotted the stuff I'd found about him on Scamwarners.com and sent it to him - along with a link to the theme song from "Cops."
Well, *I* thought it was funny.
Joking aside, though - be careful out there. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.
You can search on photos with TinEye.com and Google Image. Scamwarners.com is a good resource; and I'm sure there are more sites like that. And if you encounter a con artist on a dating site, report it to the site.
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Post by WindSister on Jun 6, 2017 9:11:33 GMT -5
You are a wise woman.  It's great you also added him to the Scamwarners site, I hadn't heard of that site. Way to weed out the scammers and all the rest that aren't worthy. |
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Post by baza on Jun 6, 2017 9:14:41 GMT -5
The evidence mounts that your bullshit antenna are working just fine Sister @smartkat
Those antenna will take you a long way.
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Post by wewbwb on Jun 6, 2017 9:16:31 GMT -5
I think it's funny also.
Tell him you can pick up the supplies at the "Princes palace"
You have a close relationship with him.
Btw- does "tineye" search adult websites?
A quick response is needed here folks.
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 6, 2017 9:35:56 GMT -5
Yes I have encountered numerous "military" con men.
I was immediately turned off by their aggressive nature.
I remember one man telling me that he wants to care about my children. This was within a few messages. I usually swipe left when I see a man in his military uniform now.
Most men on these dating sites are not honest. They say they want a relationship but by that they mean a fuckbuddy relationship.
If only I had Wonder Woman's lasso of truth. However I'm not an idiot and actions speak louder than words we all know that.
I'm ok for now just dating as an outlet and to keep growing personally.
If the right one comes along great but I will not settle.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 6, 2017 11:07:39 GMT -5
Thanks for the info SK and "HANG IN THERE" when it comes to the dating game and finding the right guy. it can be pretty frustrating from the male side of the playing field to. You would think that after a woman passes sixty she would have an epiphany when it comes to looking for "Prince Charming". But I see that line way to often for it not to say something.
I don't think men get much in the way of scammers, generally we're not given to handing over money to people we hardly know. I have met several women who have been approached by males seeking a cash infusion so it's definitely a hazard. What I have had is a couple of women who instantly became enamored with me after only one meeting or date and were mad as hell upon learning that one date does not a committed relationship make. So there are some fast movers in the female genre.
It's good you can maintain your sense of humor.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 6, 2017 11:13:42 GMT -5
Thanks for the info SK and "HANG IN THERE" when it comes to the dating game and finding the right guy. it can be pretty frustrating from the male side of the playing field to. You would think that after a woman passes sixty she would have an epiphany when it comes to looking for "Prince Charming". But I see that line way to often for it not to say something. I don't think men get much in the way of scammers, generally we're not given to handing over money to people we hardly know. I have met several women who have been approached by males seeking a cash infusion so it's definitely a hazard. What I have had is a couple of women who instantly became enamored with me after only one meeting or date and were mad as hell upon learning that one date does not a committed relationship make. So there are some fast movers in the female genre. I I'm not over 60, and even if I was....do you think that means I should settle? That remark about "looking for Prince Charming" seems to suggest it. Fine, then. There's a guy who's #3 on my list. I like him OK, he doesn't have a bad temper, and I'm fairly certain he's not a con artist. Maybe I should forget what I really want, and just let #3 have what he wants. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 6, 2017 11:25:14 GMT -5
Most men on these dating sites are not honest. They say they want a relationship but by that they mean a fuckbuddy relationship. I hope you are wrong about my fellow males. Surely the majority of us are not dishonest. I won't apologize for the members of my sex wanting a "fuck buddy". During every time in my life when I was single I wanted to have one of those. And as is often spoken by ladies at this site, many women are not interested in marrying again. So I don't see any inconsistency in wanting serious (dare I say it, monogamous)relationship with a woman who also fills that position, along with a number of other roles. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 6, 2017 11:40:48 GMT -5
Thanks for the info SK and "HANG IN THERE" when it comes to the dating game and finding the right guy. it can be pretty frustrating from the male side of the playing field to. You would think that after a woman passes sixty she would have an epiphany when it comes to looking for "Prince Charming". But I see that line way to often for it not to say something. I don't think men get much in the way of scammers, generally we're not given to handing over money to people we hardly know. I have met several women who have been approached by males seeking a cash infusion so it's definitely a hazard. What I have had is a couple of women who instantly became enamored with me after only one meeting or date and were mad as hell upon learning that one date does not a committed relationship make. So there are some fast movers in the female genre. I I'm not over 60, and even if I was....do you think that means I should settle? That remark about "looking for Prince Charming" seems to suggest it. Fine, then. There's a guy who's #3 on my list. I like him OK, he doesn't have a bad temper, and I'm fairly certain he's not a con artist. Maybe I should forget what I really want, and just let #3 have what he wants. Now you are upset with me, so I will apologize for not being clearer. I was really just trying to say there are hurdles for both sexes when it come to being on a dating site. And no I am not suggesting you should settle. I'm not suggesting you should do anything, other than "Hang In There" when it comes to the dating game. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 6, 2017 11:48:27 GMT -5
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 6, 2017 12:00:59 GMT -5
Most men on these dating sites are not honest. They say they want a relationship but by that they mean a fuckbuddy relationship. I hope you are wrong about my fellow males. Surely the majority of us are not dishonest. I won't apologize for the members of my sex wanting a "fuck buddy". During every time in my life when I was single I wanted to have one of those. And as is often spoken by ladies at this site, many women are not interested in marrying again. So I don't see any inconsistency in wanting serious (dare I say it, monogamous)relationship with a woman who also fills that position, along with a number of other roles. Yes I am one of those that don't see a need for that piece of paper but it would be nice to find a man that wants to take a woman out to dinner, go to a movie, stay in touch on a daily basis. The most honest man I found on ok Cupid so far was a married man in a SM that doesn't want to live a celibate life. I appreciated his honesty and empathized for his situation but I was not interested in that. I think I am just connecting with the wrong ones who are not emotionally available but want to get laid. |
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Post by WindSister on Jun 6, 2017 12:35:52 GMT -5
The thing is, until you meet "the one," you keep looking -- so I think it's not totally fair, either, to say that the men there don't want a relationship. When a man finds a woman he wants, he sticks with her. He deletes his profile, etc. And vice versa. Until then, he doesn't (and vice versa). It feels a lot like everyone is "looking for the next best thing" when you are in the midst of the dating scene, though. I definitely remember that feeling. But, cliche as it is, when you finally meet "the right one" you realize why all the others didn't work out.
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 6, 2017 12:37:39 GMT -5
The thing is, until you meet "the one," you keep looking -- so I think it's not totally fair, either, to say that the men there don't want a relationship. When a man finds a woman he wants, he sticks with her. He deletes his profile, etc. And vice versa. Until then, he doesn't (and vice versa). It feels a lot like everyone is "looking for the next best thing" when you are in the midst of the dating scene, though. I definitely remember that feeling. But, cliche as it is, when you finally meet "the right one" you realize why all the others didn't work out. I agree. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 6, 2017 13:30:52 GMT -5
The thing is, until you meet "the one," you keep looking -- so I think it's not totally fair, either, to say that the men there don't want a relationship. When a man finds a woman he wants, he sticks with her. He deletes his profile, etc. And vice versa. Until then, he doesn't (and vice versa). It feels a lot like everyone is "looking for the next best thing" when you are in the midst of the dating scene, though. I definitely remember that feeling. But, cliche as it is, when you finally meet "the right one" you realize why all the others didn't work out. I hope you're right. Because I'm beginning to wonder now if maybe I should just take the next non-violent, non-criminal who wants me....even if I'm not that into him. |
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Post by WindSister on Jun 6, 2017 13:41:05 GMT -5
The thing is, until you meet "the one," you keep looking -- so I think it's not totally fair, either, to say that the men there don't want a relationship. When a man finds a woman he wants, he sticks with her. He deletes his profile, etc. And vice versa. Until then, he doesn't (and vice versa). It feels a lot like everyone is "looking for the next best thing" when you are in the midst of the dating scene, though. I definitely remember that feeling. But, cliche as it is, when you finally meet "the right one" you realize why all the others didn't work out. I hope you're right. Because I'm beginning to wonder now if maybe I should just take the next non-violent, non-criminal who wants me....even if I'm not that into him. You are not. |
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It's great you also added him to the Scamwarners site, I hadn't heard of that site. Way to weed out the scammers and all the rest that aren't worthy. 
