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Post by jim44444 on Jun 5, 2017 18:18:37 GMT -5
qqc, based on your descriptions of your H I would like to make a prediction of your life if you return to him. Everytime you disagree with something he says the affair will be thrown in your face. Everytime you try to assert any independence the affair will be thrown in your face. Everytime you ask for something he does not want to provide the affair will be thrown in your face. Everytime you do something he does not like the affair will be thrown in your face. Everytime he is in a pissy mood the affair will be thrown in your face. Does this sound like the type of life you want?
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Post by TMD on Jun 5, 2017 20:18:59 GMT -5
I am a "recovering people pleaser." I see shades of myself in you. Although, I am a bit stubborn. And I'm decisive (once I make the decision). Then I stick with it.
You left. You had your out. I can't imagine what on earth your H could have said to entice you back.
Perhaps you and your therapist need to work on boundary setting?
At the end of the day, YOU get define what you want your life to look like. It's such a powerful tool. And yours for the taking.
Wishing you all the best.
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