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Post by northstarmom on Jun 7, 2017 18:40:16 GMT -5
I hope that attending his funeral has been a healing experience for you.
Since you will be in that area for a while, it could be a good time to check about possible Social Security benefits you're entitled to. From the social security site: "If you are divorced, but your marriage lasted 10 years or longer, you can receive benefits on your ex-spouse's record (even if they have remarried) if:
You are unmarried; You are age 62 or older; Your ex-spouse is entitled to Social Security retirement or disability benefits and The benefit you are entitled to receive based on your own work is less than the benefit you would receive based on your ex-spouse's work. Note: Your benefit as a divorced spouse is equal to one-half of your ex-spouse's full retirement amount (or disability benefit) if you start receiving benefits at your full retirement age. The benefits do not include any delayed retirement credits your ex-spouse may receive."
If you qualify, you will need to give Social Security certified copies of your marriage and divorce certificates. You also would need to provide Social Security with his social security number. If you married or divorced in the area where he passed away, you should be able to get those papers very easily. It's more difficult to do it by mail.
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Post by northstarmom on Jun 7, 2017 19:09:31 GMT -5
More from the Social Security site: If you have a surviving divorced spouse, they could get the same benefits as your widow or widower provided that your marriage lasted 10 years or more. Benefits paid to a surviving divorced spouse who meets the age or disability requirement as a widow or widower won't affect the benefit amounts your other survivors will receive based on your earnings record. www.ssa.gov/planners/survivors/onyourown3.html
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Post by Caris on Jun 9, 2017 17:07:49 GMT -5
I admire you. I'd admire you, regardless of your choice. But at this moment, I imagine it took great strength to be there. I'm glad you have time with a friend; I hope you give yourself many opportunities to nourish your being. Wishing you peace as you navigate a new stage in your journey. Thank you so much, TMD, for your kind words and good wishes. Hugs.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 9, 2017 17:18:23 GMT -5
Please feel free to let us know how you are doing on your return, and how things went for you.
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Post by Caris on Jun 9, 2017 23:20:30 GMT -5
Please feel free to let us know how you are doing on your return, and how things went for you. I'm still with my friend. I am contemplating staying for another week. Not sure yet. I still can't believe he's gone. It's like a bad dream, and today was a hard day. In fact, I would have stayed in my nightdress all day, had I been in my own home, so being with my friend makes me shower and dress, and make myself presentable. I've lost interest in most things. What do I do now that I'm not interested in anything? I don't know. Just living/existing day to day.
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