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Post by nancyb on Jun 4, 2017 5:55:18 GMT -5
I have moved and I am happy to say that most everything is in it's place. I've worked hard to get this place in order promptly. I received a bouquet of flower and a box chocolates as a welcome to the town from some friends.  I wish I could look in a mirror and presto be 20 years younger. This has been a process that causes you to look careworn. I'm entertaining the idea of some plastic surgery but I think its just a desperate attempt to reclaim some youth. WTF I'm single and suddenly I am wanting plastics...what a cliche. |
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Post by shamwow on Jun 4, 2017 15:32:48 GMT -5
I have moved and I am happy to say that most everything is in it's place. I've worked hard to get this place in order promptly. I received a bouquet of flower and a box chocolates as a welcome to the town from some friends. I wish I could look in a mirror and presto be 20 years younger. This has been a process that causes you to look careworn. I'm entertaining the idea of some plastic surgery but I think its just a desperate attempt to reclaim some youth. WTF I'm single and suddenly I am wanting plastics...what a cliche. The key isn't looking like you are 20 years younger but LIVING like you're 20 years younger. And you don't need a doc for that one... |
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Post by nancyb on Jun 4, 2017 17:43:02 GMT -5
Good point shamwow. Thank you. |
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Post by shamwow on Jun 4, 2017 21:50:30 GMT -5
Good point shamwow. Thank you. Ha! It's easy for me to say, but I'm in the same boat as you. I'm about to completely start over and nervous. Not nervous about what comes next but nervous I blow this second chance. |
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Post by merrygoround on Jun 5, 2017 0:13:01 GMT -5
Good point shamwow. Thank you. Ha! It's easy for me to say, but I'm in the same boat as you. I'm about to completely start over and nervous. Not nervous about what comes next but nervous I blow this second chance. C'mon Shammy - some positivity! You're not going to blow it at all. You know the life you want to lead, you will recognise those red flags and it's going to be awesome for you. I'm looking up to you guys who've made it to the other side. Keeps me strong! x |
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Post by shamwow on Jun 5, 2017 5:49:38 GMT -5
Ha! It's easy for me to say, but I'm in the same boat as you. I'm about to completely start over and nervous. Not nervous about what comes next but nervous I blow this second chance. C'mon Shammy - some positivity! You're not going to blow it at all. You know the life you want to lead, you will recognise those red flags and it's going to be awesome for you. I'm looking up to you guys who've made it to the other side. Keeps me strong! x Good point. I'm pretty sure I'm not going to "blow" it. But not blowing it is not the same thing as to fully seize it. That will require actual focused effort. But that part will come after I get in my new place and sleep for a month... This whole thing has been simply exhausting. I'm sure nancyb can back me up on that! |
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Post by nolongerlonely on Jun 5, 2017 5:58:41 GMT -5
well done Nancy, and thanks guys as always, you are my inspiration for a better life. Things couldnt have been much more miserable in my world before I came here and reading daily all the stories of taking steps to reach the 'other side' and actually seeing some of you getting there, has given me such confidence to continue in my efforts at reaching a happy place, with someone wonderful. I can visualise both !
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Post by nancyb on Jun 5, 2017 7:21:36 GMT -5
Shamwow: Most of my reason for looking so haggard has been the emotional journey of the last months and the physical reality of actually moving. Someone may move the boxes but you've got to put them away.
We had a little ceremony to say goodbye before the movers came. We crawled into the marital bed (Pajamas on) and held each otters talking about what was good about 29 years married and thanking each other for our time together. Then we cried and said our goodbyes and that was that. It was done.
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Post by nancyb on Jun 5, 2017 7:37:20 GMT -5
The new house is really fabulous. My belongings fit there like they were meant for this place. I'm planning an open house party sometime in the next month. You are all invited. Its not all great. I am alone here but no longer lonely for the man I was married to. MY FWB is more friend than benefit these days but he has been a source of tremendous help and support over the last week. I am hopeful about my future. Maybe that's enough for right now. Its only been 4 day. |
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Post by shamwow on Jun 5, 2017 8:39:00 GMT -5
Shamwow: Most of my reason for looking so haggard has been the emotional journey of the last months and the physical reality of actually moving. Someone may move the boxes but you've got to put them away. We had a little ceremony to say goodbye before the movers came. We crawled into the marital bed (Pajamas on) and held each otters talking about what was good about 29 years married and thanking each other for our time together. Then we cried and said our goodbyes and that was that. It was done. God, I haven't even thought about anything like that. It's been everything I can do to keep one foot in front of the other between family, moving, logistics, work, etc...But the actual day we move? I haven't given that any thought. Your idea sounds so sweet, and at the same time so amazingly painful. If you don't mind me asking, how did you guys come up with that way of closing things? |
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Post by nancyb on Jun 5, 2017 10:26:08 GMT -5
It just happened organically. We has talked about some sort of 'ceremony' at a later date but events just transpired that we were both there that morning.It was bittersweet but a good way to start the next chapter of our lives I think.
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I wish I could look in a mirror and presto be 20 years younger. This has been a process that causes you to look careworn. I'm entertaining the idea of some plastic surgery but I think its just a desperate attempt to reclaim some youth. WTF I'm single and suddenly I am wanting plastics...what a cliche.
