Risk (in Regard to Leaving)
May 30, 2017 22:41:59 GMT -5
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Post by baza on May 30, 2017 22:41:59 GMT -5
This post is to hopefully provoke some discussion about the risk you might be running of putting yourself in a WORSE situation should you choose to go down the divorce route.
The best available evidence comes from those members who HAVE chosen the divorce option, and lived to tell the tale, be it a good or bad tale.
Now personally, I have been a member of the old EP/ILIASM group from Feb 2009, and this current group since. That's 8+ years of reading God knows how many stories and comments there-on. Of these, hundreds and hundreds are from people who vacated their ILIASM shitholes and who have attested first hand about their outcomes.
What they attest to is that short term (during the divorce process) that they are much unhappier than they were just dealing with the level of unhappiness caused by being in their ILIASM shithole.
So short term, yes, you are definitely going to be unhappier should you choose the divorce route.
No doubt of that at all.
But in all my time here, I have not seen any ILIASM escapee come back with a story saying - "Well that was a huge mistake and I so wish I was back in my ILIASM shithole"
There is a paucity of evidence to suggest that the leaving option is a high risk choice.
It's a difficult choice, very fucking difficult, but it is not a high risk choice.
Invariably, escapees attest to enhanced levels of happiness longer term once out of the ILIASM environment.
Indeed many find new life enhancing relationships post ILIASM and attest to vastly increased levels of happiness.
And the most common comment you see them make is - "I regret not doing it sooner"
So my observations over the years are that, if you choose to go the divorce route, your risk in actually ending up in a WORSE situation longer term, are minimal.
But short term, during the divorce process, you are all but guaranteed increased unhappiness.
Short term.
Appears to be a case of "short term pain for long term gain".
Now this post is NOT recommending a charge to the exit by the membership.
Far from it.
It is simply a summary of 8+ years of observations which have led me to the conclusion that your risk of landing in a WORSE position were you to vacate your ILIASM deal, are not high - longer term.
Disclaimer
I am an escapee.
If you want my personal opinion about my personal experience I'd be happy to give it, but it isn't really relevant to the above observations.
The best available evidence comes from those members who HAVE chosen the divorce option, and lived to tell the tale, be it a good or bad tale.
Now personally, I have been a member of the old EP/ILIASM group from Feb 2009, and this current group since. That's 8+ years of reading God knows how many stories and comments there-on. Of these, hundreds and hundreds are from people who vacated their ILIASM shitholes and who have attested first hand about their outcomes.
What they attest to is that short term (during the divorce process) that they are much unhappier than they were just dealing with the level of unhappiness caused by being in their ILIASM shithole.
So short term, yes, you are definitely going to be unhappier should you choose the divorce route.
No doubt of that at all.
But in all my time here, I have not seen any ILIASM escapee come back with a story saying - "Well that was a huge mistake and I so wish I was back in my ILIASM shithole"
There is a paucity of evidence to suggest that the leaving option is a high risk choice.
It's a difficult choice, very fucking difficult, but it is not a high risk choice.
Invariably, escapees attest to enhanced levels of happiness longer term once out of the ILIASM environment.
Indeed many find new life enhancing relationships post ILIASM and attest to vastly increased levels of happiness.
And the most common comment you see them make is - "I regret not doing it sooner"
So my observations over the years are that, if you choose to go the divorce route, your risk in actually ending up in a WORSE situation longer term, are minimal.
But short term, during the divorce process, you are all but guaranteed increased unhappiness.
Short term.
Appears to be a case of "short term pain for long term gain".
Now this post is NOT recommending a charge to the exit by the membership.
Far from it.
It is simply a summary of 8+ years of observations which have led me to the conclusion that your risk of landing in a WORSE position were you to vacate your ILIASM deal, are not high - longer term.
Disclaimer
I am an escapee.
If you want my personal opinion about my personal experience I'd be happy to give it, but it isn't really relevant to the above observations.
