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Post by WindSister on May 30, 2017 15:09:56 GMT -5
A Facebook friend of mine posted her "Happy Anniversary" to her husband (31 years) and in it she basically bashed anyone who has "romantic love" by saying, "Lots of people confuse romantic love with true love, but you are my true love and my best friend - this took time to get to - 31 years, it didn't happen in just a few short years."
Well, maybe I am just reading it as "bashing" those of us newbies who have romance in our love lives - I congratulated her and left it at that.
But, for me, this quote nails how I feel and what I have experienced (am experiencing now) with my husband:
I mean, just -- yes.
Our love isn't just "new" - it's more than that and I know it. I know it with every fiber of my being and that knowing is precisely why I am so confident when it comes to his ex-wife and his ex-girlfriend now. I KNOW what we are to each other and what we share - it's been there since day one but time keeps proving it to be true. So, time can definitely strengthen love, but it's not the only measure of it.
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Post by eternaloptimism on May 30, 2017 15:16:36 GMT -5
A Facebook friend of mine posted her "Happy Anniversary" to her husband (31 years) and in it she basically bashed anyone who has "romantic love" by saying, "Lots of people confuse romantic love with true love, but you are my true love and my best friend - this took time to get to - 31 years, it didn't happen in just a few short years." Well, maybe I am just reading it as "bashing" those of us newbies who have romance in our love lives - I congratulated her and left it at that. But, for me, this quote nails how I feel and what I have experienced (am experiencing now) with my husband: I mean, just -- yes. Our love isn't just "new" - it's more than that and I know it. I know it with every fiber of my being and that knowing is precisely why I am so confident when it comes to his ex-wife and his ex-girlfriend now. I KNOW what we are to each other and what we share - it's been there since day one but time keeps proving it to be true. So, time can definitely strengthen love, but it's not the only measure of it. Yes sister 👏👏👏👏👏😘✌️Xx |
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Post by bballgirl on May 30, 2017 15:20:24 GMT -5
Time is not a measure of love and there are different kinds of love.
Do I love my children any more or any less now than I did when they were 2 years old? Absolutely Not.
The same could be said for a spouse, parent, etc.
What I find interesting is that she makes a comparison of true love vs romantic love. It makes me wonder if there is much romance in their relationship? Not everyone is romantic and some are more romantic than others. What matters is that they are compatible and make each other feel loved and not taken for granted. I suspect there isn't much romance based on her making that statement but as long as there is a mutual connection and it works for them then that is what matters.
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Post by wewbwb on May 30, 2017 15:26:54 GMT -5
Please let's cut to the case.
Are we using "standard", "metric" or "as fuck"?
Because there is a difference.
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Post by lwoetin on May 30, 2017 16:25:45 GMT -5
A Facebook friend of mine posted her "Happy Anniversary" to her husband (31 years) and in it she basically bashed anyone who has "romantic love" by saying, "Lots of people confuse romantic love with true love, but you are my true love and my best friend - this took time to get to - 31 years, it didn't happen in just a few short years." Well, maybe I am just reading it as "bashing" those of us newbies who have romance in our love lives - I congratulated her and left it at that. But, for me, this quote nails how I feel and what I have experienced (am experiencing now) with my husband: I mean, just -- yes. Our love isn't just "new" - it's more than that and I know it. I know it with every fiber of my being and that knowing is precisely why I am so confident when it comes to his ex-wife and his ex-girlfriend now. I KNOW what we are to each other and what we share - it's been there since day one but time keeps proving it to be true. So, time can definitely strengthen love, but it's not the only measure of it. It took them 31 yrs to find true love. They are slow! It took me half the time. |
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Post by WindSister on May 30, 2017 16:36:06 GMT -5
Time is not a measure of love and there are different kinds of love. Do I love my children any more or any less now than I did when they were 2 years old? Absolutely Not. The same could be said for a spouse, parent, etc. What I find interesting is that she makes a comparison of true love vs romantic love. It makes me wonder if there is much romance in their relationship? Not everyone is romantic and some are more romantic than others. What matters is that they are compatible and make each other feel loved and not taken for granted. I suspect there isn't much romance based on her making that statement but as long as there is a mutual connection and it works for them then that is what matters. I found that interesting (and possibly telling) too. Like trying to justify? Who knows. I just sensed defensiveness, I agree, as long as they are happy, who cares? But don't knock passionate love or lovers who live out loud or new lovers as being "less than" in the process. Time is not the end -all indicator of love. The amount of juice in the connection is. |
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Post by jim44444 on May 30, 2017 19:25:06 GMT -5
I would like to hear his take on their relationship.
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Post by TMD on May 30, 2017 19:32:12 GMT -5
Isn't the definition up to the definer?
I was such a skeptic at one time. Oh hell, I still am. I am always wary of people trying to prove that they 'have it together' in their relationships. And this FB post would give me a warning signal.
But... I also think, to each their own. And hope to hell they are as solid as they profess, because shit marriages are no fun.
PS -I love the quote you included, awake. Gave me chills while reading it.
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Post by lwoetin on May 30, 2017 20:34:40 GMT -5
I would like to hear his take on their relationship. to stay 31 yrs, he's either a happy camper or a wuss. Either way, wife is happy. |
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Post by baza on May 30, 2017 20:58:42 GMT -5
Ah, the banal and facile world of FarceBook.
A world where your kids are "amazing" and your spouse is your "soulmate".
Where it imperative that you gather "friends" and "likes" for validation.
Where nubile 25 year old chicks request friend status with 60 year old blokes, and Nigerian Princes offer the key to untold wealth.
Where things go "viral" and you know what Betty from Bumfuck Idaho had for breakfast.
It's great.
Source of many cheap laughs.
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Post by WindSister on May 31, 2017 8:04:09 GMT -5
I did get schmultzy on Facebook last weekend. We went on a hike and got hopelessly lost and soaking wet in a down pour (and still had freaking fun!!). I had a picture of my husband walking on the trail, framed by pine needles, I took the picture from behind. I shared a caption of "I love getting lost with this man." I am sure many rolled their little eyes at that comment, what am I trying to "prove?" Nothing --- I literally love getting lost with him and I feel such a gush of love for him when I see those pictures of him of his silhouette. I have never in my life loved a man more. It's crazy. Yes, I was crazy for sharing and I know many think it's stupid but it's me and it's genuine, not trying to prove anything. We aren't friends with any exes or any of our exes friends, so it's definitely not about proving anything. I keep my facebook pretty locked-down private. But I can't help but get schmultzy sometimes. He does, too, though. His Birthday wish to me on FB made me cry. When a man loves you out loud (like yelling from the rooftop) it makes a woman feel kinda special. (or this woman anyway). Especially when one considers my ex had pictures of our pug in his office, not his wife and wouldn't touch me with a ten foot pole in public. Yeah... loving out loud feels good sometimes.  But, that is my love language -- primarily affection/touch and words of affirmation. It's my husband's too -- again, a reason we are a good match. When someone loves you in your language it feels more real. |
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Post by WindSister on May 31, 2017 8:06:17 GMT -5
Please let's cut to the case. Are we using "standard", "metric" or "as fuck"? Because there is a difference. For the life of me I can't come up with a witty reply. |
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Post by hopingforachange on May 31, 2017 10:05:14 GMT -5
I did get schmultzy on Facebook last weekend. We went on a hike and got hopelessly lost and soaking wet in a down pour (and still had freaking fun!!). I had a picture of my husband walking on the trail, framed by pine needles, I took the picture from behind. I shared a caption of "I love getting lost with this man." I am sure many rolled their little eyes at that comment, what am I trying to "prove?" Nothing --- I literally love getting lost with him and I feel such a gush of love for him when I see those pictures of him of his silhouette. I have never in my life loved a man more. It's crazy. Yes, I was crazy for sharing and I know many think it's stupid but it's me and it's genuine, not trying to prove anything. We aren't friends with any exes or any of our exes friends, so it's definitely not about proving anything. I keep my facebook pretty locked-down private. But I can't help but get schmultzy sometimes. He does, too, though. His Birthday wish to me on FB made me cry. When a man loves you out loud (like yelling from the rooftop) it makes a woman feel kinda special. (or this woman anyway). Especially when one considers my ex had pictures of our pug in his office, not his wife and wouldn't touch me with a ten foot pole in public. Yeah... loving out loud feels good sometimes. But, that is my love language -- primarily affection/touch and words of affirmation. It's my husband's too -- again, a reason we are a good match. When someone loves you in your language it feels more real. It is usually easy to tell the difference between those that are genuine and those that are fronting/ projecting an image. The best is when their own friends call them out. Like, Last month you said you wanted to kill him and bury his body in the woods. |
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Post by WindSister on May 31, 2017 11:55:01 GMT -5
I did get schmultzy on Facebook last weekend. We went on a hike and got hopelessly lost and soaking wet in a down pour (and still had freaking fun!!). I had a picture of my husband walking on the trail, framed by pine needles, I took the picture from behind. I shared a caption of "I love getting lost with this man." I am sure many rolled their little eyes at that comment, what am I trying to "prove?" Nothing --- I literally love getting lost with him and I feel such a gush of love for him when I see those pictures of him of his silhouette. I have never in my life loved a man more. It's crazy. Yes, I was crazy for sharing and I know many think it's stupid but it's me and it's genuine, not trying to prove anything. We aren't friends with any exes or any of our exes friends, so it's definitely not about proving anything. I keep my facebook pretty locked-down private. But I can't help but get schmultzy sometimes. He does, too, though. His Birthday wish to me on FB made me cry. When a man loves you out loud (like yelling from the rooftop) it makes a woman feel kinda special. (or this woman anyway). Especially when one considers my ex had pictures of our pug in his office, not his wife and wouldn't touch me with a ten foot pole in public. Yeah... loving out loud feels good sometimes. But, that is my love language -- primarily affection/touch and words of affirmation. It's my husband's too -- again, a reason we are a good match. When someone loves you in your language it feels more real. It is usually easy to tell the difference between those that are genuine and those that are fronting/ projecting an image. The best is when their own friends call them out. Like, Last month you said you wanted to kill him and bury his body in the woods. Funny!! I actually have seen that on Facebook once (not those exact words, lol) and it was hilarious/sad to witness...... |
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Post by shamwow on May 31, 2017 12:59:55 GMT -5
I did get schmultzy on Facebook last weekend. We went on a hike and got hopelessly lost and soaking wet in a down pour (and still had freaking fun!!). I had a picture of my husband walking on the trail, framed by pine needles, I took the picture from behind. I shared a caption of "I love getting lost with this man." I am sure many rolled their little eyes at that comment, what am I trying to "prove?" Nothing --- I literally love getting lost with him and I feel such a gush of love for him when I see those pictures of him of his silhouette. I have never in my life loved a man more. It's crazy. Yes, I was crazy for sharing and I know many think it's stupid but it's me and it's genuine, not trying to prove anything. We aren't friends with any exes or any of our exes friends, so it's definitely not about proving anything. I keep my facebook pretty locked-down private. But I can't help but get schmultzy sometimes. He does, too, though. His Birthday wish to me on FB made me cry. When a man loves you out loud (like yelling from the rooftop) it makes a woman feel kinda special. (or this woman anyway). Especially when one considers my ex had pictures of our pug in his office, not his wife and wouldn't touch me with a ten foot pole in public. Yeah... loving out loud feels good sometimes. But, that is my love language -- primarily affection/touch and words of affirmation. It's my husband's too -- again, a reason we are a good match. When someone loves you in your language it feels more real. It is usually easy to tell the difference between those that are genuine and those that are fronting/ projecting an image. The best is when their own friends call them out. Like, Last month you said you wanted to kill him and bury his body in the woods. Those are NOT friends! True friends would recognize that you still want to kill him and bury him in the woods, and are just working on an alibi. Now you'd have to start all over...and probably whack the friend as well. |
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